Originally Posted by
afroman
I think this time it was my fault. I lashed out, but I just can't get over how oblivious she is to some things.
Some of you may have seen my post a while back about how this girl and a mutual friend of ours (guy friend) went out to a rave. I texted her and told her I felt on edge about it cause this guy has a record of being creepy and sketchy (has come in the middle of my past relationship, I got over it.. Also came in the middle of another friend's relationship) He had also come on to her in the past.. But I didn't really think much of it cause he's kind of a weenie.
Well long story short, this "friend" of mine asks my girlfriend to sleep with him.. She says no, yet continues on to the rave with him, takes some MDMA (pure form of ecstasy) that he gave her (how could she be so clueless to not only go out with this sketchy guy, but also take a drug from him that could easily be something that would knock her out making her an easy target? ugh) Then he drops her off and tries to sleep over her house, she (thankfully) realized it would be weird to have him over and told him to go home.
Now this was all an account of her story, which I trust. I never really had a gut feeling that something bad was about to happen. I was just mad that she hungout with this guy alone seemingly to get back at me for an argument we had gotten in earlier that night.
Okay, onto the current situation.
We were both over our friend's place the other night having a few beers, then were going to walk to the bars downtown. Our friend mentioned something about the sketchy guy coming to hangout, and I said to him "If that kid's coming over I'm not hanging out, I don't think I can even look at his face right now without wanting to knock him out."
My friends and I had all ready made plans to hang out this night. They all know I don't like this guy, yet treat me like I'm being a baby for finally cutting my friendship with this loser. One of the friends that ditched me this night actually ended a relationship because this sketchy guy had sex with his girlfriend behind his back.. This friend ditched me to hangout with this low-life who also backstabbed him. I don't get it.
I was pretty pissed at the situation. I still am. I feel like a social pariah. When my girlfriend and I went home, I was in an obviously pissed off mood. None of our friends talk to me anymore, they never call to hangout.. Yet they call her all the time. She gives me the "Oh don't worry" talk, but I'm not worried. I'm just pissed that I was ditched by all my friends because they see some back stabbing bastard as a closer friend than me all because I made a stink about it. They chose his side.
I told my girlfriend that if she weren't so clueless as to guys' intentions with her then I wouldn't have to deal with this crap. She calls me crazy and sexist, but I tell her I'm not sexist, that sketchy piece of shit who sees her like a piece of meat is the sexist and if she could have seen that, this predicament would have never happened.
Then she tries to say that I'm calling her out on cheating when I had never even accused her of it at all (kinda rings a bell to me that she may have cheated.. who knows) I tell her that I'm not accusing her of cheating, I'm just trying to show her that when guys come on to you over and over you either tell them you have a boyfriend and are not interested, or you avoid them like the plague. This argument ended with her having a temper tantrum and kicking the glove box in my car over and over while screaming as if she's a 5 year old who's being punished.
Long story short..
-girlfriend hangs out with creepy guy who is a mutual friend (not really mine, I just put up with him most of the time)
-creepy guy comes on to girlfriend (what a surprise) hangs out with her amongst other mutual friends, gives her drugs and drives her home.
-creepy guy tries to sleep over her house, girlfriend denies him.
-I become a social pariah in my social circle cause I want nothing to do with this guy. My friends seem to hold his friendship at higher value than mine and ditch plans to hangout just cause this kid calls to see what everyone's up to.
-I am beyond frustrated (along with other stressors as of late), feel like this relationship is ruining my social life and wind up getting pissed over the whole situation that happened weeks ago. Saying how I wish my girlfriend wasn't clueless to the sketchy guy's agenda cause it was obvious to me.
-girlfriend just keeps defending herself with ridiculous statements and putting words in my mouth, claims I'm accusing her of cheating (when I never did.. and makes me question if she maybe did.)
I'm sick of being angry, of feeling isolated from my social circle because of all this drama that erupted out of her just being completely clueless of this douche. I'm sick of feeling like a control freak and having to constantly tell her to respect me and our relationship. I'm so sick of this, I put so much effort in this damn relationship (moved towns, got a new job, broke up with a girlfriend) and I just completely regret it now.
.. and when I tell her this, she says "I just want you to be happy"...
It's probably time to end the relationship and find a new group of friends to be tight with. I did tell her last night that I wanted space because I feel like our relationship is driving me down a miserable black hole of depression and need to re-think our compatibility.