20 yr age difference?

[Emereldess]

Emereldess, just skip over the negative comments and let them waste their time typing.

I agree with you that you should care, and not because of what anyone thinks, but as you said of how negatively it can impact your relationship. So you are smart to think about the consequences and not just let them talk. Words can put worlds in ruins. So you do need to stand your ground - if you let them walk all over you, they will do it and it could have a big negative impact on your relationship if you let them do this. Your boyfriend should be always on your side, and by your side with this. Your relationship is only between the two of you, if other people get involved it'd be like two people trying to steer a car. You two should be as one, and if that's the case steering your relationship would not be a problem.

THANK YOU lol I sincerely appreciate it. You make sense! So hope is not totally lost yet lol. But I think I am beginning to figure out how to deal with this, as my boyfriend made it clear he is right beside me and no one else's thoughts or opinions will be interfering. Thanks again

[Wakeup]

Unlike you I woke up from the dream world that we all live in until reaching rock bottom.

I guess that explains a lot as to why you're so defensive.

Good luck, hopefully this time, with this man, things will work out for you.

[surfhb2]

Funny, as everything everyone else told me was quite the opposite? There is no point getting silly on here and ridiculing everyone else due to your own insecurities. Sorry for being rude this way, but really, grow up a bit.

And as for what a 22 y/o female can teach you.. Well you're not really worth teaching but I can already sum up that my pinky finger has more maturity than you and a couple previous posters put together.

Never underestimate the life of a female you don't know. 1 in 6 women are violently sexually assaulted at least once in their life. 1 in 7 are brutally beaten on a regular basis. 1 in 4 is sexually violated by a trusted adult once in their life. Shall I go on? Unlike you I woke up from the dream world that we all live in until reaching rock bottom. Get there and then tell me what life is all about. You've not lived my life, don't go praising yourself like you are better than me (or too good for) because you have more years on this earth than I do. Granted you have more experience but you seem to lack the knowledge usually obtained thereof?

Well you're unfortunate past sure explains the need to date your father too.....Good Luck!!

[IndiReloaded]

Funny, as everything everyone else told me was quite the opposite? There is no point getting silly on here and ridiculing everyone else due to your own insecurities. Sorry for being rude this way, but really, grow up a bit.

And as for what a 22 y/o female can teach you.. Well you're not really worth teaching but I can already sum up that my pinky finger has more maturity than you and a couple previous posters put together.

Never underestimate the life of a female you don't know. 1 in 6 women are violently sexually assaulted at least once in their life. 1 in 7 are brutally beaten on a regular basis. 1 in 4 is sexually violated by a trusted adult once in their life. Shall I go on? Unlike you I woke up from the dream world that we all live in until reaching rock bottom. Get there and then tell me what life is all about. You've not lived my life, don't go praising yourself like you are better than me (or too good for) because you have more years on this earth than I do. Granted you have more experience but you seem to lack the knowledge usually obtained thereof?

I hope your experiences lead you to wise choices and happiness, E. Life is a one-way journey and we can only ever go forward from the choices we make.

I do think 20 years is too large an age gap, fwiw. I question the judgement of someone who feels the need to date someone young enough to be their child. However, I don't have anything to add to the other varied comments except to wish you well.

[vashti]

As a 44 year old male, this thread reminds me why I don't date girls in thier 20s. Lol !

It's also clear evidence of why people generally disapprove of men who jump on 20-something year old kids.

[surfhb2]

It's also clear evidence of why people generally disapprove of men who jump on 20-something year old kids.

......Touche !

[IndiReloaded]

How old are his children??

Ah well, she's clearly flattered to be involved with someone so mature (I use the term temporally) and financially stable. As the saying goes, we are drawn to those who have something to teach us. She's a 20 year old going on 40 (except with none of the wisdom or experience) and he's obviously having a mid-life crisis borne of a likely painful divorce (and therefore wants to be 20 and a do-over). This story is as old as the hills.... except to those who haven't had the experience of hiking those hills.

[Emereldess]

Thanks to the supportive comments. The rest of you I am speechless. You ought to be ashamed of yourselves. Playing on my mental state or experiences is not something I take lightly. This went from a word game to cruelty and I am truly horrified that some of you even exist. Wait until it happens to you. You are blissfully ignorant right now but one day when your daughter comes to you speaking of traumas such as the aforementioned ones, you will be at a loss because you clearly have closed minds and closed hearts. I am offended and disgusted. Please for your own sakes grow the f**k up, this is going way too far. If you have nothing nice to say to me please accept my request and leave this thread alone. I honestly am open mouthed and wide-eyed at what I've just read. There is something wrong when you can laugh at someone for going through unimaginable pain and suffering and struggling to male the right choices. You wonder why I could be defensive well it's severely mentally deficient morons like you who think you can laugh at a subject such as this that make me feel defensive. Take this and laugh at it or do what you want, but if you are respectful in any way then please do not comment on this again. Thanks...............

[surfhb2]

Thanks to the supportive comments. The rest of you I am speechless. You ought to be ashamed of yourselves. Playing on my mental state or experiences is not something I take lightly. This went from a word game to cruelty and I am truly horrified that some of you even exist. Wait until it happens to you. You are blissfully ignorant right now but one day when your daughter comes to you speaking of traumas such as the aforementioned ones, you will be at a loss because you clearly have closed minds and closed hearts. I am offended and disgusted. Please for your own sakes grow the f**k up, this is going way too far. If you have nothing nice to say to me please accept my request and leave this thread alone. I honestly am open mouthed and wide-eyed at what I've just read. There is something wrong when you can laugh at someone for going through unimaginable pain and suffering and struggling to male the right choices. You wonder why I could be defensive well it's severely mentally deficient morons like you who think you can laugh at a subject such as this that make me feel defensive. Take this and laugh at it or do what you want, but if you are respectful in any way then please do not comment on this again. Thanks...............

What supportive comments and Who's laughing? I think your situation is incredibly sad

[Emereldess]

No you don't! Don't even pretend, you BLATANTLY ridiculed as well as made fun of me for a past filled with pain. You are an ignorant jerk as far as I am concerned, how the hell do you look yourself in the mirror!? Do you think a girl asks to be in the wrong place at the wrong time!? I, nor a good 90% of other women who have been in a similar situation have ASKED for it! I am with my current partner due to CHOICE. judge that choice if you will but HOW DARE you blame it on and then laugh at my trauma! You, sir, need to think twice before you type. Intentional or not, you went too far. You ask what the supportive comments are because you know NONE of them are yours! If you're here to do damage, stop now because I think you accomplished your task.

[Emereldess]

Well you're unfortunate past sure explains the need to date your father too.....Good Luck!!

This is SUPPORTIVE?

[surfhb2]

This is SUPPORTIVE?

It wasn't meant to be supportive......I dont like your ePresence on this site. Please leave and go to another forum please.

[Emereldess]

Get lost surf.

[Boisdevie]

Why did you give up wacking off to porn?

It was getting too expensive to replace all those keyboards.

[vashti]

No you don't! Don't even pretend, you BLATANTLY ridiculed as well as made fun of me for a past filled with pain. You are an ignorant jerk as far as I am concerned, how the hell do you look yourself in the mirror!? Do you think a girl asks to be in the wrong place at the wrong time!? I, nor a good 90% of other women who have been in a similar situation have ASKED for it! I am with my current partner due to CHOICE. judge that choice if you will but HOW DARE you blame it on and then laugh at my trauma! You, sir, need to think twice before you type. Intentional or not, you went too far. You ask what the supportive comments are because you know NONE of them are yours! If you're here to do damage, stop now because I think you accomplished your task.

I am beginning to believe you are trolling.