I have been with this girl, whom I love very much, for one and a half years. But because of my perfectionism tendencies I always try to improve myself and her. It has come to the point where she has told me that either I accept her for who she is or its over.
I honestly want to get rid of my perfectionism tendencies, because I think its robbing me of my happiness. I have the same attitude towards myself, I'm always critical of myself and feel that I need to improve everything that I possibly can.
Our main problem has been that I want her to loose weight. She's not overweight, but I seem to expect her to have this well-trained bikini body. The reason I believe I'm pushing her to work out is because I'm a fitness junkie and therefore seem to expect her to do/be the same.
The worst thing is that she is better looking than me - so how can I be this stupid? On the "inside" she is the best gal you could be with.
Is it the perfectionism that is preventing me in having a healthy relationship with her or should I be with someone who is also a "fitness junkie" like myself and stop wasting her time?
I am willing to change and I want to be with her because I love her so much and she could be my future wife. If only I could see past this ridiculous perfection thing and just be happy that I have such a great girl.
Please provide constructive feedback, I don't need to hear how shallow or how much of a scumbag I am.