Thoughts on guys opening the door for you?

[nathoonder]

At this point in time is it just considered cliche and dumb? How do you feel about it? I for one enjoy opening doors for the girl I'm with.

[NiaPeach]

Yes, I enjoy it! It shows a true gentleman. It's ridiculous that it has to be questioned nowadays because so many females accept less!

[nathoonder]

Okay, I do it all the time but yeah I obviously question it by posting for advice here lol.

[lamobatsman]

my thoughts or a girls thoguhts? hmm as a guy i think nice and a real gentleman. As a girl i think loser and doormat. If u want to get a girl dont do this shit ever in ur life!

[fearoflove]

Ya, it is cool. Part of being a gentlemen. But don't freaking open the door thinking you are a gentlemen when you won't even pay for the first date.

[NiaPeach]

Absolutely not true. Not even! Listening to the above will get you the type of person you don't want in your life.

[michelle23]

i wouldnt think much of it either way. if he left the dood close in my face-id be fairly pised but i wouldnt think "wow hes great" just coz he opened a door lol. it would take a lot more to impress me.

its not attractive if hes fidgety, nervous, going out of his way to please etc. it should be natural

[Rowen]

For me, I like how traditional it is, but I find it REALLY awkward when I'm on a date and a guy opens a door for me. It makes me wonder if I'm being good to the guy, and as a result I tend to try to open the next door for him (like if it's a tiny anteroom with another door further inside). And then I wonder if I'm being good to the guy because some of them insist of having me NOT open a door for them even when they open one for me... :S This is why I do much better online than in person...

Erm...but the idea is excellent, and I think it's nice. I like to think of it as a notion the guy is considerate.

[YoungCosmo]

My rule is, guy or not, always try to open doors for friends or guests: that's just plain being polite to your company, whether or not you're dating them.

[nathoonder]

I've paid for all the date and they're very expensive -_-

[nathoonder]

my thoughts or a girls thoguhts? hmm as a guy i think nice and a real gentleman. As a girl i think loser and doormat. If u want to get a girl dont do this shit ever in ur life!

Thanks for the advice, I don't really mind if she sees me as a door mat though

[searock]

I find it a bit awkward frankly.

[surfhb2]

Never met a girl who found it awkward. ....that's different.

Anyway.....big props to the ladies to reach over and unlock my car door afterwards as I come round to get in

[searock]

Well, it's just that I'm used to opening my own doors so it's awkward to wait until the guy has opened it for me. I subconsciously view it as an obstacle in my way, having to wait.

This doesn't apply to the door of a guy's car: I think it's nice if he opens it for me. It's like he's giving me permission to enter his car, and he's taking care of me in a way.

[FlaCooln]

I'm a bit old school. I open doors, open the car door, pull out the chair, carry the heavy stuff, and pay for the date. I believe chivalry is not dead...well at least for me.

And anyone who says you are a pussy or a doormat for doing so is an IDIOT.