I'm very bubbly,hyper,overly happy about little things (sometimes),energetic and humorous. But I'm not an attention seeker.It's just easy for me to open up to the others and be myself. When I talk to my friends, I laugh a lot(especially when I find something funny) and can be very loud cos I feel very comfortable with them.I'm happy then I laugh. It's just like a reflex.
Some of my friends/colleagues (all of them are women) have given me 'advice' and have told me I'm loud.They thought the way I laugh can scare guys away and I should be more self-composed.They even told me,"If you could act more self-composed,then you would be much more appealing to guys cos most guys like girls who are self-composed.If you could be more self-composed,then you would have more options when it comes to dating"...yada yada yada........OMG!I only laugh out loud in the right time,right place and with the right people.I never laugh out loud at my workplace or in front of my clients. I never laugh out loud in front of guys who I really want to date.To be honest,I'm fed up with all these comments. How do they know most guys don't like hyper girls? Did they ever do a research on this topic?! Why would they assume every single man or person is into the same people?!We all have a different taste in women or men. If we all would have loved the same face-type or person, then it would have been chaos!Everyone would have been fighting over one person and most people would have never gone on a date or got married. This is common sense! It gets on my nerves that they impose their own standard on me! I hope they're not trying to ruin my self-esteem or put me down!
Love or relationship is all about caring,respect,tolerate and happiness. Loud and quiet are just something apparent!If a guy likes me enough,he won't give a s*** about whether I'm loud or quiet.He would love me and accept me for WHO I am.
All of my friends who gave me these "advice" are Chinese.I'm not a racist cos I'm also Chinese though I've lived in England for years.
What do you think? Do you think it has something to do with ethnic group and cultural difference?
Thank you!