Why do men cheat?

[Love'sReject]

Uh, anyone with a sense of self-accountability and is a fully functioning adult would say so, too....moron.

[Cerby]

No, cheating is wrong. But some men will force a woman to cheat by not treating her good so she has to prove a point that she is beautiful and wanted and some women will damn near push their man into another woman's arms from not doing him right or just letting him be the man or acting as if they dont care.

This post wins the "BS of the day" award. No one is ever forced to cheat, this is a choice being made. If you aren't happy in the relationship, then you LEAVE, you don't go out and make things worse by cheating and then blaming the other party for it. Talk about transferring the blame.

[Sirana]

People who have no moral standards cheat, its simple! I think that human race (women and men) are programmed to like many different people. I could love my BF (if I had one) the most in this world, he can turn me on, he can be the best ever, he can provide me everything I want, he can be fun and amusing...BUT there will always be in the human nature that "something". I remember when I was walking with the guy I liked so much, I seen only him. But then again I looked aside and I just smiled to a complete waiter ever, he smiled back! He flirted with me...lol I was flattered, I subconsciously flirted back, nothing crazy or too much! Something hit me, can't explain what, but if he invited me to 5 minutes of hangout in the back, if I had no morals I would not refuse!
My point is....its in the human nature, you will always meet someone "better" (cuter, funnier, better looking, whatever) but a guy/girl who has no moral will cheat on you no matter what. And that person who can do it once, will do it again!

P.S. I really wouldn't say that someone cheats on you just because they don't love you or doesn't find you attractive, or something else. Its just that they don't value your emotions or respect you, it's simple! There is just a question to the other side can she/he handle someone with low moral standards who actually fullfill their needs for real, who had no respect for you and so on....
This will sound wierd but I can understand people who cheat, it's in their DNA and you can't ever change them, some people are just born this way. Some get drunk and cheat under influence of something. Anyway I think cheating is like any kind of an addiction. You have a gene for this and you can't stop it for a while, you can commit, but you will always be like a ticking bomb!! So, the best thing when you start dating someone exlusive is to ask them:"have you ever cheated on someone?" and talk about it

[michelle23]

Statistically men are more likely to cheat over women.....but women are more likely to have emotional affairs over sexual ones. So I say if you included emotional affairs it would be about 50/50.

statistics are bollox. I don't believe that at all. Some men cheat for sexual reasons, some for emotional reasons. Some women cheat for emotional reasons, some women cheat for sexual reasons. It is just a stereotype that men cheat for sex while women cheat for emotional reasons. What about all these men who have never had a one night stand or a fling-nor want to? And many men have had emotional affairs. It is 50/50.

[Rowen]

No, cheating is wrong. But some men will force a woman to cheat by not treating her good so she has to prove a point that she is beautiful and wanted and some women will damn near push their man into another woman's arms from not doing him right or just letting him be the man or acting as if they dont care.

Bull. And you know why? If she feels like she "has to prove something," she obviously has a flawed personality and isn't taking into account that she can leave. If she's that unhappy, she doesn't have to prove to the guy she's worth it by cheating. All she has to do is dump him and find someone better. In the end, karma will bite his ass off, and she'll, meanwhile, be happily in love with another man. She decides whether to cheat or not. But if she feels cheating is right in order to prove she's beautiful, she has to get her morals straight.

This post wins the "BS of the day" award. No one is ever forced to cheat, this is a choice being made. If you aren't happy in the relationship, then you LEAVE, you don't go out and make things worse by cheating and then blaming the other party for it. Talk about transferring the blame.

Awe, I was hoping to win that award! But, in all seriousness, I agree. Everyone has the capacity of committing an act that can hurt someone else. It's only a matter of whether they choose to use it.

[michelle23]

No, cheating is wrong. But some men will force a woman to cheat by not treating her good so she has to prove a point that she is beautiful and wanted and some women will damn near push their man into another woman's arms from not doing him right or just letting him be the man or acting as if they dont care.

That must be worst post I have ever seen on this site. So naive Nicki! Nobody can force or push anyone to cheat. If a person cheat it is their fault. If your unhappy get relationship counselling, communicate, try to fix whatever is wrong or LEAVE. Nobody has a chain around your neck preventing you from walking out the door. How does cheating solve anything??

And why cant you look in the mirror and smile and tell yourself your beautiful. Why do you need a man to tell you that? Get some help for your insecurity and stop thinking that men are more guilty than women. That is bollox. It is 50/50.

[michelle23]

My point is....its in the human nature, you will always meet someone "better" (cuter, funnier, better looking, whatever)

I've been with my man 4 and a half years. I have never wondered is the grass greener, never met anyone who I think may be "better". Hes my world. Even if I was attracted to someone else-I would just think to myself-hes a nice looking bloke-that's it. The thing is I am happy living in reality with my wonderful man who I love and adore. I don't need to live in cloud cookoo land wondering what if because I wonder what is and what I have is great.

If we run into problems-we will work through them together as a team. I would never turn to another man.

[michelle23]

P.S. I really wouldn't say that someone cheats on you just because they don't love you or doesn't find you attractive, or something else. Its just that they don't value your emotions or respect you, it's simple!

I wouldnt call that love. If they don't value your emotions or respect you-they don't love you. Not enough anyway. There is someone who will love you more, love you enough not to cheat on you.

[Sirana]

What I've meant was, from my experience...Eventhought you think you love someone so bad and he/she is the one! You will always get into temptation for it, that is why we are humans!! But a normal and stable person with values and morals will not do it! If I had a BF and he cheated on me be because he was on drugs or drunk as hell, I wouldn't think it was because he doesn't love me, I'd look at it as his weakness of being a weak person who is immature and has no limits with alcohol or any other ifluential things that messes up everyone's brain. But sure it's a bad thing. It can happen to anyone, I think people should understand that sometimes people are just humans and that love is not perfect. I'd get over with once under cicumstances I said above, but twice or more, not!
I can say now that I'd dump BF like that, not because he cheated on me, because he doesn't meet up with my morals and values in life. But when someone finds themselfs in these situation is hard to think.
I think emotional cheating with 1 person more the once is the worst sin in a relationship, but one one night stand...I could get over it.
Call me stupid but I belive everyone cheated on their partner at least once, or at least thought about it more then one time. Whats with watching porn? Its the same thing. You want someone else. Doesn't mean your boyfriend doesn't love you.

[michelle23]

Watching porn is completely different to physically cheating and if they watch it-it does not mean they want to go out and cheat on you. As far as I know-some people are turned on by the sexual acts on the screen-not the person as many people do not actually find porn stars attractive..

If you forgave someone for cheating whilst drunk-would you not be terrified that it would happen again the next time hes drunk?? Would it not make you jealous, insecure, paranoid, obsessive? Would it make you unhappy? Its better to leave once it happens unless you want to be wondering where he is, what hes doing and who with for the next 5 years!!

I think cheating with a one night stand is worse than an emotional affair. At least with an affair they actually have feelings for the other person and may even see a future with them so you know they are throwing what you have away because they see a future with someone else. With a one night stand-they are throwing everything away for nothing. That doesn't make any sense to me.. Anyway I personally think both are unforgivable and I would not take back a cheat in either scenario but Id hate him less if it was emotional and not just sexual.

When I think about someone cheating for sex: it makes me feel angry jealous and hurt

When I think about emotional cheating: It makes me feel numb and despair.

I think both are as bad as each other

[Sirana]

Sorry I don't really want to be rude! Yes, I know what you want to say. Yes, I am like that too. When I am in love with someone, I love only 1 guy. But don't tell me that not even once in your whole relationship you didn't met anyone else who attracted you more at some period in your life. I am not saying that you needed to cheat on him or something. Even my best friend who is getting married this year and is dating a guy for 7 years and she is crazy about him, had thoughts about kissing her ex even for 1 time before her wedding. She didn't denied she wouldn't do it if opportunity came along! But she said she loves her finace so much that she probably wouldn't do it, maybe if she was too drunk. She was thinking about it because she talked to him recently when he congratulated her on her future marriage.
My point is if there are no temptations in any relationships at some period of time, thinking about someone else even for less then 5 minutes or asking yourself normal questions is he really the one? Then I don't think it's healthy. When there are temptations, you learn why you love your BF/GF and why you want only them. If you are too blind and focus only on your significant other and you are to dependant on them and he/she is your only world and you don't see anybody else. I think it's a bit unhealthy. I'd really like that my future husband has temptations and that I am not his only world, because I belive it's how people respect more what they have.

[michelle23]

Sorry I don't really want to be rude! Yes, I know what you want to say. Yes, I am like that too. When I am in love with someone, I love only 1 guy. But don't tell me that not even once in your whole relationship you didn't met anyone else who attracted you more at some period in your life. I am not saying that you needed to cheat on him or something. Even my best friend who is getting married this year and is dating a guy for 7 years and she is crazy about him, had thoughts about kissing her ex even for 1 time before her wedding. She didn't denied she wouldn't do it if opportunity came along! But she said she loves her finace so much that she probably wouldn't do it, maybe if she was too drunk. She was thinking about it because she talked to him recently when he congratulated her on her future marriage.
My point is if there are no temptations in any relationships at some period of time, thinking about someone else even for less then 5 minutes or asking yourself normal questions is he really the one? Then I don't think it's healthy. When there are temptations, you learn why you love your BF/GF and why you want only them. If you are too blind and focus only on your significant other and you are to dependant on them and he/she is your only world and you don't see anybody else. I think it's a bit unhealthy. I'd really like that my future husband has temptations and that I am not his only world, because I belive it's how people respect more what they have.

You are making a lot of assumptions about me. Let me make it clear-I am not dependent on him or anyone. I am very independent and I have my own mind. No I have never been tempted to cheat on my bf because to me cheating is wrong and it will never be an option. I have fantasied about Charlie Hunnam coz I think hes hot but if he appeared in front of me-I wouldn't want to kiss him coz I know the difference between fantasy and reality and no I have never looked at another man and thought "I wish I was single" I notice good looking people all the time-that doesn't mean I want to have sex with them... I have been asked out a ton of times over the past four years-some were losers, some were nice, some were goodlooking but I was never tempted. Im happy with what I have.

I have had those doubts occasionally, I have asked myself are we really happy, are we really great together, will I always be happy? I have wondered what it would be like to start all over again with someone else and experience infatuation again. I have wondered could there be someone else out their in the world that Id be even happier with but my answer is always "I'm happy, I love him, we are compatible-emotionally, intellectually and sexually, we have the same morals, values and beliefs, the same future goals, we enjoy each others company, make each other laugh. Hes my best friend and the best lover I could ever hope to have so why would I trade all that in for a little infatuation"

[Starnique]

What I've meant was, from my experience...Eventhought you think you love someone so bad and he/she is the one! You will always get into temptation for it, that is why we are humans!! But a normal and stable person with values and morals will not do it! If I had a BF and he cheated on me be because he was on drugs or drunk as hell, I wouldn't think it was because he doesn't love me, I'd look at it as his weakness of being a weak person who is immature and has no limits with alcohol or any other ifluential things that messes up everyone's brain. But sure it's a bad thing. It can happen to anyone, I think people should understand that sometimes people are just humans and that love is not perfect. I'd get over with once under cicumstances I said above, but twice or more, not!
I can say now that I'd dump BF like that, not because he cheated on me, because he doesn't meet up with my morals and values in life. But when someone finds themselfs in these situation is hard to think.
I think emotional cheating with 1 person more the once is the worst sin in a relationship, but one one night stand...I could get over it.
Call me stupid but I belive everyone cheated on their partner at least once, or at least thought about it more then one time. Whats with watching porn? Its the same thing. You want someone else. Doesn't mean your boyfriend doesn't love you.

I somewhat agree. Your always going to be attracted to someone else. Whether you CHOOSE to act on it is something entirely diff. I know for a fact if your intoxicated it does impair your ability to think straight. Thats why if you know thats your weakness you shouldnt get pissy drunk. to **** someone is diff but that affair or emotional connection is way worst. I have been cheated on and I have done the cheating. If I cheat its because hes cheating on me usually.

[michelle23]

If I cheat its because hes cheating on me usually.

Why lower yourself to his level? Why not say **** you, I deserve better and leave?

[bearz]

If I cheat its because hes cheating on me usually.

This logic is freaking amazing.

EDIT: Damn you Michelle, beat me to it!