Your husband has a hardtime being good at anything when it comes to your marriage. What's new with you, OP: Have you taken any courses or done anything (besides have leg surgery) to better yourself so that you love yourself and get the strength to leave him?My husband has a hard time being a caregiver
Your problems aren't about your husband anymore. They're about you and your inability to do anything to change your lot in life. Work on you and your life will improve for the better.
Don't be trying to find a guy before you leave this husband because if you don't work on you first, you'll just end up with exactly the same type of man.
You may not be back to your thread but I suspect you're creeping it so don't ignore what you're being advised. In your need to complain but inability to take action to better your lot, you're your own worst enemy. No sense bitching at him either. Evidently it goes in one ear and out the other and he continues on because he knows you're not going to do anything to make him reap the negative consequences of his actions.