What to do,friend or more

[i dont know]

Hello,

So i have this friend who i really like.I am just a little confused on what to do,say and really what to think about all this.

Here is a little about both of us. I am 21 and she is 25 i am over weight but i am tall 6'3 and am built like a football player.I am in good shape for my weight.She is thin and at least 6 foot. I work with with people ages and up its a sports program.I go to school and so does she.Her job is to take care of her mom and and help with what ever need to be done.

my family knows her family and they are god friends with my mom.

Like i said i work with all ages of people at work.I work with her,her son,her brother,her mom and her aunt.Because of this i am abrade of asking her out.I do not want to make everyone feel okword, But i would like to have an ideal of whats going on and maybe some day ask her out,

Here is why i am confused.When i am at work she will come over to me and we will talk for a while.Some times depending on the day and what i am doing She will come sit next to me and or stay after the class and talk to me for at lest 30 mins, sometimes over an hour.Its all small talk though,Its hard to talk where we are with out someone else hearing.Now we talk on Facebook almost every day.Mostly small talk.

It seem that both at work and FB i see to start the conversation.Even if she comes up to me i will start it.I am not sure what that means if she does not care or is shy.I have known her for at least 2 years but over the past month we have really been talking.

A while back i asked her if she had Skype. She said that she did and i gave her my user name,She never called.I tried again to get her to talk to me on there ,no luck. she said she would if she has time.I know she had time since she had been talking to me for the past 2 hours,but OK.

The other day i asked here if she want to go do something with me, something i know she had never done before.She said she is not sure.I was not a big deal though.I asked her when we are going to hang out.She said she is busy Saturdays,i jokingly said all the days of the week and she replied with a answer excuse to all f them.


I have two Facebook one for work and one for just family and friends(Not work friend),I had her on the one for work.One day she saw me on the other one and asked about it.I told here about it and then she wanted me to add her on it,so i did.We also play game on the phone all the time,word and drawing games.I no she thinks of me as a friend,But i am not sure if she like me.

She always has the biggest smile for me, Its different the the smile she has for others. She seems to talk to me a little different then others as well.I have asked her if i am bugging her when i message her on Fb she says no,but i am not sure if she is just being friendly or no,

I understand she is busy with her mom,kid,school,and taking care of other stuff but i need you advice on all of this.Do you think she like me? I just don't know what to say to her any more.how can i get a real conversation going?How can i get her to hang out with me?when i asked her to do something with me i was not asking her out on a date,Just as a friend.what do you think is going on with this Skype why wont she want to talk to me on there when she will talk to me For ever on fb or at work?


Any advice on any of this will be help full.If you have any questions for me let me know.

Thank you.

[FoundAgain]

I think that you are a little insecure and you are afraid of decline by her side. But you will never know if she like you as long as you don't ask her directly or just propose to her to hand out together. It's not something hard to do just be confidence and nice at the same time. You can tell her that you like her as a person and the way she talk and smile at you. Something more, it's not important where you two have yours online conversation but it is important what you say to each other. You can ask her some a little more personal things to get to know each other and step by step to reach the moment when it will be OK to ask her out. If she says no at least you will know that there is no point of trying and you will have new experience. I wish you good luck!

[michelle23]

I think you should just tell her you like her. You could say "I don't want to make things awkward between us and if your not interested its okay, ill respect that and we can just be friends but I do like you and would love to get to know you better. Would you like to go for dinner/lunch/coffee/drink with me?" and see what she says.

You have nothing to lose really. Its pointless trying to be her best friend if shes not interested. Find out if she is and if she does like you-you can date. If she doesn't, you can be polite and friendly but stop wasting so much time chatting to her and meet someone else.

Good luck