So confused by women, does she want something?

[Alphyn]

Hey everyone.

So I know this girl who I was into a bit, wanted to get to know her better. And everytime I feel like I don't want to talk to her anymore she just asks or tells me something silly out of the blue. Is she doing this on purpose?

I asked her to go out to the cinema, didn't talk to her for 2 days and then she suddenly texts me and says something like
"so there's this guy and our convo went like 'blah blah blah' and he said 'is there something nice to do in your house?' and then I said 'in my bed ' and he said ':$', what do I do with this?!"

Isn't that a bit weird? Is she trying to get something across?

Also, about a week later we hung out at my place and then I decided okay this isn't really my type of girl and a couple days later she asks me wether there's something here she apparently left. But I get the feeling she knows it isn't there.

Am I reading too much about this situation?

[michelle23]

Forget her. Your wasting your time. Sounds like a slut

[HeartIsAching]

Sounds like she likes the attention, but doesn't really want anything more. When you start giving her attention, she backs off, and when she doesn't hear from you, she does something to get attention from you.

[smackie9]

She wanted you to man up, and be interested in her (maybe for the attention who knows). If you are not into her like you say, just tell her you are not or she will keep playing these stupid games.

[Alphyn]

I'm not interested romantically, but sexually sure. Is there anything I should do now? I haven't replied to her question yet. Should I just say 'maybe'?

[michelle23]

Tell her what you just told us ^^^ and see how she responds.

[smackie9]

Most girls like her are needly and clingy and test you. IMO she wants a BF. So you better lay it out on the table that you are interested in a FWB or casual. If you use her, it could get real ugly.

[Alphyn]

I should... Tell her like that? I'm still only 19, never said something like that. What am I supposed to say? 'Hey I'm interested in us having sex' if thats what you mean with casual smackie :o

[ashley89]

text her and say "wanna ****?" hahaha ;]

[michelle23]

Or say "I don't want anything serious but I'm up for Friends with benefits" and see what she says.

[Alphyn]

I prefer Ashleys approach but that wouldn't be very respectable would it :p thanks Michelle, I'll do that and report back

[ashley89]

I prefer Ashleys approach but that wouldn't be very respectable would it :p thanks Michelle, I'll do that and report back

hahaha I know I was half kidding ;] it would be pretty funny though to see how she answered

[ashley89]

just beware, more often than not friends with benefits starts out great and then one person ends up developing feelings. I know from experience that it usually doesn't end well if one person feels more than the other, so just keep that in mind if you start to get involved with her!

[bearz]

Looks like she definitely wants to have some fun. If you'd be ok with that, let her know.

[smackie9]

Hey you don't know unless you ask.