Married but thinking of someone else. HELP

[michelle23]

Men who cheat by expert Rob Weiss:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/robert-weiss/men-cheating_b_1916104.html

"makes you feel good about yourself"=insecurity
"talks about bills etc"=real life, real relationship, real marriage.

Why dont you put all this time and energy into your wife. Turn off the telly sit down and just talk, take her out for dinner, bake together.

I think you are just being selfish

[michelle23]

Thanks for the links, I'll look through them

Your welcome. I hope this helps. Please don't hurt your wife. She does not deserve this.
Heres another life: Stages of grief after infidelity.

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/j-cameron-gantt/7-stages-getting-over-infidelity-expert

[bcgirl]

I appreciate all the honest answers. Just want to clarify that we are not interested in each other, just close friends. And while yes we do joke around etc but the notion of infidelity was never implied and there no bad intentions.

You come on here expressing your huge crush on this cousin. Therefore friendship can not maintain if you have a crush on her. You need to distant yourself from that because you are married. If you were single than that's a whole different ball game. Shiat! Life is going to throw a whole bunch of tests for you. This is one of them testing your marriage and family.
There are lots of ppl in this world, if you need some friends join a beer league of some sort or something. Just sift through this forum and you will find tons of posts on "cheated with my friend". All it takes is one night with a bottle of wine and before you know it, you are in over your head in sh!t because your poor judgement, wine and emotions lead you and the cousin to kiss.

[michelle23]

bcgirl great words-life IS full of tests and a weak person will fail them time and time again. Hes failing right now