Hi everyone,
I know its long but please read it and give your genuine opinion
She is not responding for last 10 months.
she is 24 , a Virgo . me - 27 , aquarious ( amazingly I don't understand much about love )
I have read, virgo's take time, but this long ???
Details : we met at work place, she started to like me .I also liked her, but i knew she had a boyfriend so i didn't make a move thinking she might have some problem with her boyfriend and settle that up soon.
But I saw her interest kept on growing. But when I started to hint her that I am also interested ( although I am not good at hinting)
- she started to talk about her boyfriend, so I thought , probably they are happy now. So I started behaving normal. but again she started back to behave like she likes me - teasing, playing, touching. and then back to talk about her boyfriend...that was making me so jealous.... this happened for 2 months ..and now was the time she was going overseas for 6 months for studies and she asked me to add her on skype, which ofcourse I did.
After few days overseas, she declaired her relationship on FB as single.. Now then I thought she was not going well with her boyfriend, and I talked about this on skype - she said she doesn't want to talk about that. after few days I asked her and she refused right away...upset me. I still kept on talking to her as a friend and said sorry.
Now she would call me on skype and we would talk about other things.
but sometime when I call she would turn her skype on busy, sometime for whole 1 MONTH.
it was like, I always try to reach her but she would avoid me .
and only respond once a month ( saying , sorry I am just a little lazy to reply )
and then I thought I was probably crossing my line , she just needs a friend not a BF.
But she knew i liked her very much. And then after 6 months she comes back to austarlia, ( even though she didn't change her location stauts on FB, which she does always, I found that by her friends posts), she didn't let me know. I was furious.I asked " where are you right now ( then she was in sydney for a few days for her a Birthday, with her freinds)..she said broken hills ( a place a few 100ks from sydney) to practice her Social work field experience stuff ". I shouldn't have asked her like that. So to make the environment soft I started joking like nothing happened. she replies " you are silly ".
and I asked how long she is there for. she says 6 months.
( That was shocking for me - before leaving sydney she said she was coming back in 6 months, but never said she was going to Broken hills. ) - but that was all justified, as she had to get experience in her field.
Then I started talking through text messages, funny ones. as always, I was sending messages , 1 everyday, and she would reply, once a week.
Now somethng amazing happens. A friend of her who used to work with her for 5 yrs told me , she really liked me. I was totally on the top of the world... I tried to enquire about her more.. and found that she had another boyfriend just before this last one , but that guy left her, never came back. and I saw that guy posting on her facebook , but she didn't reply and changed her relationship status on FB to "in relationship" with this new guy....Never heard from that guy again. But this new guy , everyone who knew her said, she was not happy with him. That explains the way she changed her relationship status to "single " on FB as she left australia.
Now my stupidity starts : I wanted to make sure if she is still interested in me. which I wanted to check in the most wierdest way, I started sending her more messages 2-3 msgs a day, and then started sending her a little creepy one, even said I love her. i thought she would reply , but no reply...
so I stared the frequency of messages 6 msgs a day. and then i started to plead why is she not replying ..then she replies . I am not replying because I want to limit your texts to 1 /day....
I thought she still liked me.
Now eventhough I wanted to stop , i couldn't stop texting her, but no creepy ones....
and this time , like any other girl , just stopped talking to me I just kept on saying sorry thousand times..but no reply for 2 months
Now I totaly forced her to relpy by sending her almost 20 msgs a day. even asked, if she met someone... She replies " Please don't try to contact me anymore".
she was completely pissed
I realised I crossed my limit and didn't say anything for a month and then started pleading, begging to forgive me and about how much I love her. texting once every 3-4 days.
after 2 months she replies " stop contacting me , leave me alone ".
I totally stopped . I realised I've been such an irriatating person. I cursed myself.
I sent her a text after a month, saying sorry. no reply. then for next 6 months I sent few 4-5 msgs in total but never a reply always about sorry I was..no reply..now I have totaly stopped sending her for last 4 months...
and I need help. I don't know what to do
when I look back at all this, I feel so sorry that I was such an idiot, just kept on annoying her by my msgs. she is shy and silient, extremely mature, but very very strong mentally , and she has seen alot of things in her life for sure, she understands people right away.
I check her facebook. doesn't seem like she is with someone. even if she is with someone , she should have told me something..like - not interested , forget about me etc.
BTW, she has got a job in a small town 500ks from sydney ( there are few social workers jobs in city any way ). but she does visit her freinds here, in sydney, some times.
I have decide not to contact her and wait for her , for next few months....
I think I am living under illusion. she was probably gone long time ago.
I am counting on the fact that I have heard about virgos ( I think which applies to any girl )
that she would let me know somehow indirectly that she is not interested anymore..she would let me know,
I even asked her if she is with someone..no reply...
but probably by not replying she is indicating to forget about her. i don't know...
anyway...I want to give her sometime. Because, other than the fact that I love her too much, when in future this thing ever haunts me then atleast I can say to my self that I gave her full time. I will get mental satisfaction that it wasn't my fault.
so please shed some light here
wait for her or forget her ?
Thanks for being patient to read this.