Originally Posted by
CoolStoryBro
HIA in kissing Indi's ass shocker. I hope thegaymod bans you both for making him look a twat.
Got nothing better to do than troll the forum? Why don't you post something if you have a different opinion.
As for SMHH, if I ever get involved in a longterm relationship again it will be required reading. All these others ones, Get the Love You Want, 5 Languages, Relationship Rescue (I read fast, I've read them all), all offer the same sop that only 'works' for those with a certain basic level of emotional engagement. They *don't* work for this kind of personality, and I know this from experience. The exercises in those books require some emotional engagement to anchor on, but the OP sounds like he has issues with acknowledging his own emotions. There's no capacity for anyone else's until that get resolved. He needs to 'know thyself' first.
I do agree with Wakeup that your wife is bitching at you b/c you've disengaged but still hang around transmitting your bitterness. Time to shit or get off the pot, as they say. Work to fix things, or work to leave. Here's a thought for you, one I finally decided was the right way to be thinking about my own marriage. Choose from the following:
Be excited and positive about your marriage, excited and positive about working on your marriage, or excited and positive about getting out of your marriage.
Last edited by IndiReloaded; 04-01-13 at 03:51 AM.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh