My girlfriend made a porno with her ex that is all over the internet

[AdminOnline]

Paris Hilton's porn gave her career a huge boost. Maybe she wants in on the adult industry? There are big bucks in that

not this kind of idea ... x_x *facepalm*

[searock]

Key opens many locks? Master key.

Lock opened by many keys? Shitty lock.

Yeah, except human beings aren't locks and keys. But you're probably trolling, so OK.

[bcgirl]

Boyfriends and fathers jerk off to "sluts" who take it up the butt and like to be called degrading names while being an exceptional deep-throater so it goes as no surprise that your girlfriends and daughters are making a porno with the first guy that calls her pretty and buys her flowers. It's just human nature to want to be found attractive and sexy by the same and opposite sex. If those millions of boyfriends and fathers didn't subscribe to Paris Hilton, Pam Anderson and Kim kardashian porn then your girlfriend and daughters wouldn't feel the need to agree to making a pornos with John, Jim and Steve. In the new generation (due to all those celeb porns coming out every week) it's "cool" to make a porno, but what the kids don't think about is consequences of these pornos getting out to the public.

[Wakeup]

It's just human nature to want to be found attractive and sexy by the same and opposite sex.

Sure it is, but if any chick who thinks that taking it up the rear by a FB , not a monogamous loving partner mind you, and allowing him to film you is what makes her feel preeeeety then there are some pretty deep seated childhood problems/abuse/neglect to overcome.

Watching porn has nothing to do with "your daughters" wanting to immulate the likes of Paris Hilton, Pam Anderson and Kim Kardashian. You bring your child up by being loving and attentive parents that are responsible enough to guide them int he right direction then they certainly won't want to be any thing like the likes of those three choices.

How would a child even know that their father was watching porn of any kind for goodness sakes. That is a private matter that any decent father would keep private.

[surfhb2]

Sure it is, but if any chick who thinks that taking it up the rear by a FB , not a monogamous loving partner mind you, and allowing him to film you is what makes her feel preeeeety then there are some pretty deep seated childhood problems/abuse/neglect to overcome.

Watching porn has nothing to do with "your daughters" wanting to immulate the likes of Paris Hilton, Pam Anderson and Kim Kardashian. You bring your child up by being loving and attentive parents that are responsible enough to guide them int he right direction then they certainly won't want to be any thing like the likes of those three choices.

How would a child even know that their father was watching porn of any kind for goodness sakes. That is a private matter that any decent father would keep private.

If that's truly the case in this situation then I'm Back to agreeing with you

At first it seemed to be just a couple who wanted to get extra kinky and the bf decided to be an ass after the relationship was over.

[whatshisface]

I think wakeup has captured my sentiments exactly. He seems to be right on point to how I feel about all of this. It is not so much that she did these things, because I do not have a problem with anal sex. I don't particularly enjoy watching it, I don't care to try it, but if guys/girls like to do this, more power to them. It IS about compatibility, and wanting to be with someone who shares the same values as I do. And I am not as high moral as everyone here might think I am. I have done some things I regret.

But, what girl stays with a guy for this long that treats her this way? And she was a virgin when she met him. It was my assumption that girls wanted their first time to be with a guy who is loving, caring, and with someone who will treat them right. Not someone who makes them into a whore in training. I spoke with her again, and I find out that this relationship was longer than 6 months, it was probably a year or more, maybe even 2. She says they didn't hang out all the time, maybe once a week, if that.

This girl is beautiful, I mean she is really good looking. She could get lots of guys. It begs the question, what was this guy offering her? What did she get out of all of this? Yes, she was naive and was taken advantage of, but there is definitely a part of her that wanted to be treated in this way or at the very least tolerated it for some reasons unknown to me. It is definitely a red flag, serious issue. She is a masochist, or has low self esteem, I remember someone say when girls meet a guy like this, they run. That's the kind of girl I want.

She went to the police filed a report, then went to family court and criminal court to press charges. She knew only his name and phone number. She didn't seem to be sure of his age, didn't know his address, no facebook, no email address, nothing, so they can't really serve the guy. It's just sad. They have a detective looking into this, but that is about the best they can do. The police also said that once a video is online it is 'out there' and they have no authority to pull them offline, so they can't do anything for her about that. I'm thinking even if the guy does get served, he'll get a lawyer, claim it was stolen, and the case will go nowhere for her. I almost regret having her go to the police to give her hope she might have some revenge.

Let this be a lesson to all of you girls out there. Plenty of couples make videos, it's true. But look at how this turned out for this girl. Even when you are with a guy you are sure will love you forever, lots of couples break up. A jilted boyfriend, or just a guy with asshole tendencies, will have no problem putting your videos online, and they will NEVER go away.

[CoolStoryBro]

lol .

[searock]

She does sound like she has serious issues. I think you are right in breaking up with her. I hope she gets the help she needs.

[bcgirl]

Who's to say she didn't enjoy the sexual acts with her ex bf? Perhaps she got embarrassed that you saw the videos and so she felt like she needed to lie to you and play the damsel in distress card. I would be more concerned that she keeps on constantly lying to you about everything. It really ruins her credibility.
She was with a guy she was in love with, of course she will explore sexually with him and get kinky. Yes she got burned in the end, but so do many ppl who marry and go through an ugly divorce. Sh!t happens. If she got all hot n horny and wanted to make a porno with you, I'm sure you wouldn't think twice about doing it.

[whatshisface]

of course I would!! Because that's what all guys want to do right? They want to make pornos, have rough painful anal sex with their girls, and cum in their faces right? What the **** is wrong with you girls? You know all of you ****ing sluts make me ****ing sick.

[Mish]

But, what girl stays with a guy for this long that treats her this way? And she was a virgin when she met him. It was my assumption that girls wanted their first time to be with a guy who is loving, caring, and with someone who will treat them right.

I think you answered your own question here^ She was young, inexperienced and made a mistake by finding someone who didn't treat her right. People do make bad mistakes sometimes, it's not completely unheard of. You probably made a few mistakes yourself that you are not proud of too. How would you like it if someone threw your past mistakes at you and judged you for them for the rest of your life?

[Wakeup]

The key is to find someone who she is compatible with, someone who won't care if she allowed herself to be treated the way he treated her. It's not about everyone holding this against her (or him as an analogy), it's just about those who find it not to their personal boundaries who will hold it against her.

Everyone has deal breakers of some kind or another.

[Mish]

I agree^ If he can't accept her due to her past he should let her go so that both can find more compatible partners

But he's still asking questions, so I thought it warranted an answer

[bcgirl]

Your not so safe and bright and can easily get burned too. Next time you should not be so naive to bring a slut home to your folks for Xmas. Try explaining to your mom what happened to that" lovely"girl that shared your family Xmas and why she isn't around anymore. It's guys like you that one day catch herpes and believe their gfs it was from a public toilet seat

[Wakeup]

Try explaining to your mom what happened to that" lovely"girl that shared your family Xmas and why she isn't around anymore.

That needn't be an issue in the least. I'm sure he'll be more than fine with telling them that she turned out not to be who she originally presented herself to be and it didn't work out... simple! Any mother or father who is concerned with their son (or daughters) well being wouldn't care that he left behind someone who he wasn't compatible with.

*Just thought I'd save the Op the trouble of being manipulated into getting angry once again.