LOL, holy hell...
I tend not to side with HIA but I'mma give bro cred.
Some don't have to be drunk or deprived. True story: a group of guys I knew would put in 20 bucks to see who can pick up the fattest ugliest chick in the bar and go **** her in her car for everyone to see.
Now after reading that who is actually the one that is desperate and sexually frustrated?
Classic HIA.
HIA is saying there is more to attraction than 'attractive'. If one is married, you avoid the intimacy that would allow that attraction to develop. End of.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
I totally didnt get that from HIA, I thought he just wanted to mention he had a hot lady friend, but an even hotter wife.
They both are probably average...
He loves his wife, he waited for her for years. Its cute and they deserve to enjoy it. Why diss him for it? Enjoy it while it lasts, I say.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Yeah, maybe. I'm too cynical....