Can my relationship survive after my girlfriend cheating?

[ookami]

Hi,


I've been with my girlfriend for 3 months now and I love her very much as she does me. We have talked about going to university together and even marriage. I've known her for around 3 years now and without sounding strange it had always been building up to us starting a relationship. The last 3 months have been incredible, we've seen eachother almost every day and when we've been with eachother it has been amazing. I've met her parents lots of times as well as her whole family and her friends. She's also met my parents and they got on really well. She has good aspirations as do I and we both want to do well in life. I really do love her a lot, I want to spend the rest of my life with her and can't imagine myself without her.

However, a week ago she sat me down and told me she had to tell me something. She said that 2 months before we had started going out she had sex with a guy while she was on holiday, she was really upset and felt really bad. I was a little shocked, but I told her I didn't really care and it's not relevant as we weren't going out at the time so it's fine. I asked her why she was telling me this randomly and she just said she had to get it off her chest because one of her friends was threatening to tell me this because they had a fight. I said I wouldn't even care if the friend told me because it's still irrelevant as we weren't together.

Then a few days passed and I got a message from this friend of hers. She said something like "Oh your girl only told you about the cheating because she didn't want me to do it first". I replied and explained that it wasn't cheating because we weren't together at the time. She then told me that we were together and it wasn't two months before but it was in fact 2 days into our relationship. I found this very hard to believe obviously and told myself that she was lying and I would believe my girlfriend. I told my girlfriend this and then she called me, crying, and confessed to having sex with another guys 2 days after we began our relationship. This shocked me hugely, the girl I'd been with for 3 months and known for so long, who I love, who I thought had morals and integrity had cheated on me within just 2 days of our relationship? And not just a kiss but actual sex? (WE haven't even taken that step yet) Furthermore she lied to me about something that didn't happen to try and cover up this lie, and she didn't even tell me herself but one of her friends told me?

I didn't understand how she could have done this when we'd only just started going out. She told me that her cousin had come down to see her with a friend who she'd met before and it "just happened" and she "didn't know why" but it "didn't mean anything". She talked about how everyone makes mistakes and she regrets it and loves me and is sorry etc etc.

I don't know what to do.

I know it's sad that I'm posting it here but I can't talk to anyone I know about it, it kills me.



She also assured me that nothing else has happened and she hasn't lied about anything else or that she'll ever do anything again. She said she wants to marry me and have children.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

She cheated on you 3 months in. You are a chump. Dump her.

[ookami]

She cheated on you 3 months in. You are a chump. Dump her.

Did you actually read any of it? She cheated on me 2 days in, I just didn't find out till 3 months in.

[VincenzoG91]

Two days into your relationship? What does that mean? Two days after the first date? I think that would be a bit tacky, but not really cheating. Or do you mean two days after the two of you decided that this was a serious, exclusive relationship?

[BackUpOrGetStng]

What I meant was that, it is only 3 months into your relationship, right now, and she has already cheated on you. Do you comprehend, now, numbnuts?

It doesn't matter if it was 2 days or 3 months in really, if she's cheating on you, especially this early then no it's not salvagable. You sound like a worthless twat, so maybe you should do your best to try an make it work. Don't be surprised when it happens again though.

[ookami]

So two days after we agreed it was exclusive and she drove round and told me "yes we're official"

[ookami]

What I meant was that, it is only 3 months into your relationship, right now, and she has already cheated on you. Do you comprehend, now, numbnuts?

It doesn't matter if it was 2 days or 3 months in really, if she's cheating on you, especially this early then no it's not salvagable. You sound like a worthless twat, so maybe you should do your best to try an make it work. Don't be surprised when it happens again though.

Thanks, that's awfully helpful, the exact reason why I joined this forum...

[Maple1714]

Thanks, that's awfully helpful, the exact reason why I joined this forum...

Oh, stop being dramatic.

Anyway, I really don't think it's a big deal. She was on vacation and you two had just decided to be "official". She has come clean to you (which is her mistake #1) and you should just get over it. If you trust her now then go with it. Why did she even tell you...that was really stupid, but it shows you that she really cares about you and felt so guilty that she needed to tell you. People make mistakes, can you forgive her?

[VincenzoG91]

So two days after we agreed it was exclusive and she drove round and told me "yes we're official"

Gotta dump her then. The early part of the relationship should be the happiest time, when both of you are infatuated and not seeing any flaws in one another. If she cheated at that point, you're never going to be able to trust her.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Maple, her 'coming clean', was lying about it to the OP. She told him because her friend was going to tell him if she didn't. Guess someone didn't read the OP, not that I blame you.

[luvcoq]

What I meant was that, it is only 3 months into your relationship, right now, and she has already cheated on you. Do you comprehend, now, numbnuts?

It doesn't matter if it was 2 days or 3 months in really, if she's cheating on you, especially this early then no it's not salvagable. You sound like a worthless twat, so maybe you should do your best to try an make it work. Don't be surprised when it happens again though.

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[Maple1714]

Oh shit, I didn't read the whole post lol. Well, still people make mistakes. But, this whole situation sounds dumb.

OP - What "friend" of hers is texting you and getting in the middle of the relationship? How old are you?

[ookami]

Some bitch who she told when they used to be friends, I'm 18

[luvcoq]

Some bitch who she told when they used to be friends, I'm 18

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[Maple1714]

They are 18.............