Should I tell the mother?

[tradie1988]

This is a rather difficult decision and has been doing my head in for a couple of weeks now.

I will give you some background first. I am male 24, I am in a (sort of) relationship with a 36yo woman for nearly 3 years now. She has two daughters who are 20yo and 18yo, they both have boyfriends.

They are a very open family in many ways, they talk to each other about anything, they all opening admit to being bi-sexual and talk about it....a lot, they all sunbathe topless by their pool even when guests are around. I found that difficult and embarrassing to deal with at first but it is just second nature now and I don't bat an eyelid.

Now the issue that I would like advice/opinions on is rather disturbing in many ways so I will just tell it as it happened and let everyone make their own judgements.

I have a key to the house, I went around a couple of weeks ago and let myself in. As far as I knew no-one was home. I went to the kitchen to get a drink and saw the girls out back by the pool. I didn't say hi because I was going to have a shower before I went for a swim.

After the shower I was back in the kitchen and I saw something that I don't even really know how to describe, it made me feel quite ill and to be honest also quite aroused at the same time. The two girls, sisters, were going for it and holding no prisoners. It wasn't just a kiss it was a lot more than that but no need for details. Honestly, I watched for about 15 minutes which I am not proud of but it was just one of those things that even though you know you shouldn't you just can't turn away.

I went back out the front, and opened the garage door to make it look as though I was just arriving and by the time I was around the back at the pool they had their bikini bottoms back on as though nothing had happened. I said nothing. They were both pretty drunk so I thought maybe it's a once off (fingers crossed).

I decided I would not say anything to anyone about this but over the last couple of weeks I have noticed things that I probably didn't pick up on before. The way they touch each other and flirt constantly. The way they kiss goodnight, I never noticed before but now it just seems a little too inappropriate, a little too much lip for a little too long. Last night was like the final straw, hot water was running low as the mum and I just had a shower so they showered together! They are 18 & 20yo! The mum didn't flinch when they said they were showering together, I nearly fell over.

So what do I do?

Do I get involved at all? Do I talk to them? I am only 4 years older than them, not really a 'father figure'.

Do I tell the mum (my girlfriend)? Does she know already? Is it any of my business?

Do I tell the boyfriends?

How do I approach getting involved or do I just leave it and try to ignore it?

I thought to myself if it were a brother/sister I would definitely step in because there could be consequences (pregnancy) but that doesn't apply to two sisters.

It's obviously inappropriate, but at the end of the day are they really hurting anyone?

I doubt anyone would have had a similar experience to offer advice on what they did so I am really just looking for opinions on which way others would deal with it. I am really struggling to choose a direction myself.

At the moment, if it weren't for my feeling towards my girlfriend (their mum) I would just run as fast as I could in the other direction.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

They are adults. Don't say anything.

[tradie1988]

Not saying anything is not as easy as it sounds. If they didn't live at home and it wasn't in my face all the time it would be a lot easier.

And then there's the trust issue between myself and my girlfriend. I should be able to tell her anything, she would expect that. But what if I do and she hates me for telling her, or hates that I watched, or hates that I didn't stop it, or worse already knows?

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Dude, chill out. Stop making a mountain out of a mole hill. Maybe they were just practicing kissing or something. It's obvious they are a very sexually open as a family so the mom probably wouldn't give a shit anyway. In any event, it is none of your ****ing business. Shut. The. ****. Up.

[Wakeup]

Nice story. I think I read it in a 1978 Penthouse Forum Letter, actually.

[tradie1988]

Maybe they were just practicing kissing or something. It's obvious they are a very sexually open as a family so the mom probably wouldn't give a shit anyway.

Maybe I didn't make it clear in the original post, sorry. They weren't just kissing, they were doing everything you would expect to see in a porno movie.

As for practicing, I see no need for this. They are openly bisexual, they have both had girlfriends before, I'm sure they know what to do and don't need practice. Heck, the eldest one was openly seeing a couple for a while and just introduced them as my boyfriend and my girlfriend and thought nothing of it.

I am happy for them to live their lives as they see fit but do you not think that your own sister is crossing the line?

As for the mom not giving a shit, this is what I am most concerned about. The mom is no prude, we have shared others in our bed and explored a hell of a lot sexually but surely a parent wouldn't approve of their two daughters being together?

Am i really that out of touch that these sort of things are considered OK now?

[tradie1988]

Nice story. I think I read it in a 1978 Penthouse Forum Letter, actually.

Yes, it does sound very much like a letter or xxx movie, i agree.

As I read it back to myself you get the feeling that one of the daughters was about to come into the shower. A classic porno situation. That didn't happen. It is all true.

Of course I have no way of verifying anything all I can do is assure you that every word is true.

[surfhb]

I think the word Twit describes you quite well

[InYourFACE]

This whole story and the figures in it sounds weird to me.

like what are you doing with a old ass.
and what is she doing with you while she have kids of your age?

and how can she say noting while her kids walk around topless? before you or strangers?

i think this woman herself have zero morals so did not teach her kids any of that.
they are products of their parents.

and i think you are a nasty perv to stand their and take your time to watch 15 min of incest.
and to make them being topless something normal for u.

i dont know this whole story is weird to me. the whole combination of age and
behavior and stuff.

If you are really that concern and see that its wrong why did you not step in immediately or
tell their mother?
Even thou i think this women have no morals.
But keep it for yourself doenst sounds right especially if u really are not like that.

And i wonder if she never worry that you may end up in bed with her daughters since they are sluts and you guys are the same age.
and why would you even date a old woman with 2 kids?
whats is it that attract you about such a heavy baggage/?
or is it cause of her money and stuff?

and why would you even go there when the mother witch is you "gf" if not there?

[InYourFACE]

The mom is no prude, we have shared others in our bed and explored a hell of a lot sexually but surely a parent wouldn't approve of their two daughters being together?

Dude now you are talking. So you and her both have zero morals.

so why are you acting? like you are prude?

its stupid of you to be that surprised, while you joined her in all immorality. immorality knows no boundaries so
i guess you knew from day one that they are lost like that.

so far that you enjoyed it also by share bed and explored a hell of sexually??!!
them dude, you are weird. if you are the same and enjoy being like them,
how are you going to even say something about anything?!

even tho anyways incest is wrong and you should say something immediately and not only now but from day one!
cause sex pout of marriage is wrong and immoral 2, so sleeping with your own sex also, and nudity towards others that
are not your wife or husband, and group sex.
So there is no one doing good.

But if you find incest wrong i think there still some moral in you so you shore should say something.
maybe its a wake up call for you that you need to stop doing immoral stuff and jump out of this
sad family.

[InYourFACE]

And you are using a double standards!

Or you say no to all of it or you take all of it.

i hope you do the first one/.

[VincenzoG91]

Cool story, bro!

[tradie1988]

I'm going to answer a few questions raised and then that will be it.
I'm surprised that this forum seems to just be attack, attack, attack.

like what are you doing with a old ass.
and what is she doing with you while she have kids of your age?

She is very attractive, I like her, we have fun together, why would we not be together?
Age is just a number.

and how can she say noting while her kids walk around topless? before you or strangers?

They don't just walk around topless, moreso when sunbathing and stuff.

and i think you are a nasty perv to stand their and take your time to watch 15 min of incest.
and to make them being topless something normal for u.

Yes, I deserve that

And i wonder if she never worry that you may end up in bed with her daughters since they are sluts and you guys are the same age.

Why would I end up in bed with the daughters? It's not them that I am attracted to. I am an honest person, I would not cheat on my girlfriend.

and why would you even go there when the mother witch is you "gf" if not there?

The daughters were supposed to be at school. I had just finished work and often drop by for a swim. Nothing abnormal about that.

[tradie1988]

But if you find incest wrong i think there still some moral in you so you shore should say something.

Look, I have every intention of saying something (I think).

I started this thread to get a variety of opinions of the best way to do that.

Tell the mom, confront the daughters, etc etc or maybe just but out.

It seems that people are too hooked on the "porno" side of the situation to give advice/opinion of the very real dilemma I face.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

How about shoot yourself in the ****ing head, douchebag. Then you don't have to worry about any of it. Get ****ed.