Help dealing with my mother...

**TheTooya** · 21-09-12, 01:38 PM

Well, my previous thread was: http://www.loveforum.net/threads/68191-Maybe-burning-bridges-with-parents...-help-please

Here is a bullet list of facts:

Mom does not like my girlfriend
Mom has put an ultimatum for me to break up
I did not comply
For a week, My mom continue to send hurtful emails
I blocked my mom from phone and email
Mom logged into my linkedin and screwed around with my account
Mom cancelled her own credit card, cancelled her own points, and blamed me for it
My stepdad takes her side, telling me how terrible I am for cancelling their credit cards
I inform him I did not cancel their cards, but it falls on deaf ears
I block my stepdad from email and phone, he understands... I think
My mom is apparently threatening to sue me for the tuition.
My parents had paid for my tuition under the condition I maintain A-Bs consistently
Unfortunately I received a C in two my semesters, but my mom asked me to forge my grades so that my stepdad would continue paying

So... I am left with a few options. I can "tough it out", and not pay them.

Or, I can start paying them back ($160,000).

Ideas? Thoughts? This is very emotionally stressful on me...

**HeartIsAching** · 21-09-12, 01:40 PM

Pay them nothing. If they insist, tell them to get a lawyer.

And ferchrissakes, cut off contact.

BTW your mother threatening (take note of that word) to sue is an attempt to regain control. To make you do what she wants.

ANY TIME that threats or coercion is involved, it's a power play.

**TheTooya** · 21-09-12, 01:47 PM

Oh I did cut contact.

I changed my phone number, and blocked out their emails. However, their secretary can still email me, and I will call him on a blocked phone number to communicate. We are currently going through a transition phase where responsibility is removed from me.

He just wanted to give me a warning of what my mom is doing.

**HeartIsAching** · 21-09-12, 01:49 PM

I'd be willing to bet that if they try they'll lose. At worst they'll be forced to a settlement.

**TheTooya** · 21-09-12, 01:50 PM

Originally Posted by HeartIsAching

BTW your mother threatening (take note of that word) to sue is an attempt to regain control. To make you do what she wants.

ANY TIME that threats or coercion is involved, it's a power play.

The implicit threat I heard was:

If I don't give her a call in 3 weeks, she is sueing me.

Originally Posted by HeartIsAching

I'd be willing to bet that if they try they'll lose. At worst they'll be forced to a settlement.

Yes, but I did have a verbal agreement with my stepdad that he would only help me with my tuition if I did not get below a B as a grade.

**TheTooya** · 22-09-12, 07:35 AM

... welp, giving this thread a bump due to Ea Scarlet's gravedigging. (sorry)

**searock** · 22-09-12, 07:55 AM

It was only a verbal agreement between you and your stepdad, I don't think it means anything, legally speaking. Did you forge your grades, and what exactly do you mean by that?

**TheTooya** · 22-09-12, 12:43 PM

Originally Posted by searock

It was only a verbal agreement between you and your stepdad, I don't think it means anything, legally speaking. Did you forge your grades, and what exactly do you mean by that?

The first time I got a C, I told my mom, and she told me to "change" the C to a B while copy/pasting it. So... I did as she said.

..And now she is threatening to sue me unless I call her within the next 3 weeks.

**searock** · 22-09-12, 05:09 PM

Where did you copy/paste it? On official school documents? Does she have proof?

**InYourFACE** · 22-09-12, 08:41 PM

I dont want to go read no old post.

So put it all in here.

And stop complaining about your mom.
If you are underage suck it!

cause they are the parents you are the kid its there money and house!

if you are adult you should be on your own. then no one will tell you anything!
cause its your own place and money.

**HeartIsAching** · 23-09-12, 12:57 AM

Originally Posted by InYourFACE

I dont want to go read no old post.

So put it all in here.

And stop complaining about your mom.
If you are underage suck it!

cause they are the parents you are the kid its there money and house!

if you are adult you should be on your own. then no one will tell you anything!
cause its your own place and money.

**** off somewhere else, douchebag.

**distilled** · 23-09-12, 01:51 AM

Parents suing their children...... only in f*ckin America. The answer is pretty simple, get your sh*t together. Your parents are paying for your education, the least you can do is maintain your grades. All that stuff that your mom did, I think that was to get your attention. Talk to her and stand firm in your actions, just be respectful while you're doing it.

**TheTooya** · 23-09-12, 04:56 PM

Apparently there is a common trend of tl;dr going on...

Originally Posted by InYourFACE

cause they are the parents you are the kid its there money and house!

... *their

Originally Posted by distilled

Parents suing their children...... only in f*ckin America. The answer is pretty simple, get your sh*t together. Your parents are paying for your education, the least you can do is maintain your grades. All that stuff that your mom did, I think that was to get your attention. Talk to her and stand firm in your actions, just be respectful while you're doing it.

My parents paid for my education 2 years ago. I am well into the working world living independently. My mom creating a situation out of the past.

My point is this: I am being blackmailed to call my mom within the next 3 weeks. If I don't call her, then apparently she is going to sue me. I think there is something dramatically wrong here.

Anyhow, HeartIsAching I think hit the nail on the head in his first post, so I am not going to call her, and see how things play out :/

**searock** · 23-09-12, 08:15 PM

Tooya, was what you did with your grades illegal, and does your mother have proof?

**InYourFACE** · 23-09-12, 08:31 PM

Originally Posted by HeartIsAching

**** off somewhere else, douchebag.

shut up faggot you are a douchebag retarded ass hole

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