my partner and i have been together for 12 months, i have a 4 year old child from a previous relationship. my partner and i have had alot of troubles over the past 10 months where he has got highly agitated over the smallest things ie me not going home from a friends when i said i would, leaving out details of who i have
seen or spoken to. he works in the mines so he is very rarely home which i believe is a contributing factor to our issues as we cant talk about them properly. i
recently was informed by one of his workmates that my partner is apparently dating the personal trainer that is on the site, my partner has in the past 3 months become obsessed with being in the gym and working out so much so that he has called me fat on several occasions as i havent returned to my pre baby size due to contraceptions causing weight gain. the past 2 months of my relationship my partner hasnt wanted to touch me or kiss me he no longer tells me he loves me or misses me while at work. i had a misscarriage 2 months ago and was really big on trying to talk about how it had upset us but he just informed me he never believed i was pregnant which crushed me deeply. now this apparent relationship on his work site has been going on for about 2 months as i was informed. i confronted my partner about it and he blew up at me saying he knew i would react this way but never actually denied it he said it was a camp rumour but still never said it wasnt happening, also when he is home he either takes off to the pub and doesnt come home till the next afternoon or he is on his phone all night messaging this girl. i am literally at my wits end i dont know what to do i love him so much and dont want to lose him but i cant raise a child in this environment, its also affecting my health severely ive been in and out of hospital with pain from stress i dont eat so i come close to fainting alot i dont sleep, im seeing a councellor myself to recieve help with dealing with issues about my child but my partner in no way is showing support with it. he is just down right cold. please someone i am desperate for advice or even just something i could suggest we do to help mend our fragile relationship.
thanks