No Sexual Attraction

[searock]

OP, why not focus on the rational replies instead :-)

[Sovereign88]

To add if you truly loved him, then his physical appearance would be over looked.....So I doubt very highly you know what love is. I feel you are a lonely desperate person thinking that finding a man to marry you is your answer to finding happiness.

Better step back and take a good overall look at your motives here.

I am neither lonely nor desparate. If I were desparate I would not have called off the wedding. Secondly, we connected so well dating long distance and in every other respect that we both agreed that we would work well as a married couple...I did not go into the relationship seeking or expecting marriage...Yet, I will take your advice as far as stepping back and assessing the situation

[Sovereign88]

I think you should suck it up and settle. You deserve it, and you sound boring as hell, so you two should be perfect.

Shut up, asshole.

[Sovereign88]

i think you r rude toward the men! and fake! you dont know what love is! you barely know him, u cant talk about love so early! i think its weird how you find your mate and already engage and all! you r to desparate to start a family! he is not for you! no one ever talks like this about someone they even like, and you say love and talk like this about him? wow give him hate then!

Honey, what on earth are you talking about?? I came on this site for GENUINE HELP, not to be insulted and regardless of if you think I am "fake" "desparate" or whatever other negative attributes you have given me without knowing me is irrelevant...If you can not give USEFUL advice then you have no business commenting. I'm assuming that you lack the courage to insult people in person so you save it for innocent people online...I am sure you don't like it when people insult and judge you (WITHOUT KNOWING YOUR CHARACTER) for dating interracially (Black men) so treat me as you would like to be treated, my dear. I hate to have to lecture you as if you are a small child but that is PRECISELY how you are behaving so GOOD RIDDANCE

[Sovereign88]

OP, why not focus on the rational replies instead :-)

Lol, good idea. How do you close a thread?? I think I've had enough of morons who just like to hear themselves type

[Sovereign88]

I have to disagree with all the other comments on here. They are from shallow people and are, I suspect, not religious. I think you should make an effort to keep this man. Love will conquer all. Bless you.

Yeah, that's how a HUGE part of me feels too. There is so much love and potential between us and since we live in the same place now, it is almost like starting all over in a way...Perhaps these attraction will develop over time. I just don't want to move too hastily and look back and realize that I missed out on my soulmate. You know what I mean??

[searock]

I meant that you should focus on the actual advice you've received, rather than on the negative comments. There's no reason to get so irritated btw, you can just ignore them.

Oh and I'm pretty sure Boisdevie was being sarcastic.

Have you decided what to do?

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Maybe try having him brush his teeth once a week, and start increasing from there. Also, suggest he take Viagra. I'm not so sure love can conquer perpetually bad breath and and horrible sex.

[Sovereign88]

Sounds like you are looking for a great provider and you found him but you are not happy about some of the things he is.

i think you normal date for your needs (like someone who can support you financially etc. and not for what its about.

and you act like you order a men and are not happy with it.like you have to be with him

I can PROVIDE for myself. This man is far from wealthy. I actually made a big finacial sacrifice in choosing to be with him. I think you are more interested in attacking my character than you are in giving advice.

If you had read thoroughly you would have seen the REAL REASONS that I listed for being with this man, but you overlooked them to come to your own delusional conclusion.

You are a well spring of stupidity, so please keep your mouth shut on my threads.

[Sovereign88]

I meant that you should focus on the actual advice you've received, rather than on the negative comments. There's no reason to get so irritated btw, you can just ignore them.

Oh and I'm pretty sure Boisdevie was being sarcastic.

Have you decided what to do?

I haven't decided yet. I don't want to move too hastily and burn a bridge that can never be repaired...And you're RIGHT, when I allow myself to get irritated, I am just giving the other person power over me.

I have told him about the lack of physical attraction in a kind way, which is why we are on a workout regime together now. We are such a good unit and we support eachother's ambitions. I don't want to lose him....So no, I am still trying to figure out what to do, my friend.

[surfhb]

Why would you move in a with a man you've never met?

Yeah....leave it now and get out while you still can. Who cares about bridges....this is about you.

[Edwardnew]

Don't marry him. Its the right decision for you.

[toknow]

You can't continue this if you are having second thoughts as this shows the instability of the situation. I personally don't think you should be getting married if you aren't certain. I'd say give it some time, don't rush this. Let the dust settle and give yourself time to process this, and you'll be more likely to make the right decision.

[Sovereign88]

Why would you move in a with a man you've never met?

Yeah....leave it now and get out while you still can. Who cares about bridges....this is about you.

We've been together for almost two years. Our relationship was just long distance for the past year. I know him very well and nothing about him in person has deviated from the man I have been dating long distance for the past year. I know it was a big risk nonetheless....And thank you for your advice

[SunsetRainbow]

Obviously I don't know the guy, and I know love isn't just about looks - but physical attraction is important too!
If you are having doubts then I think you should get out. That's my personal opinion obviously.
Oh and ignore the trolls