Ok i apologize in advance. This may be a long post.
I met a guy three months ago online. I wasnt even really interested in meeting him but he was persistent with emails so i finally agreed. I really liked him when i met him but wasnt sure if he was that into me. He was extremely shy. He did end up sweeping me off my feet with his innocent sweetness. He bought me flowers. He was such a gentleman. I thought he was really into me. He remained very shy for a couple months. Not in the bedroom but in conversation. So a month into our relationship i asked him where we stood. He said he really liked hanging out with me but he didnt want a gf. I had issues with this since i was/am looking for a serious relationship. I decided to see him a few more rimes and we had the discussion again. He now said maybe, only time will tell. This gave me great hope. So we continued to date for another month. Everything seemed to be flowing nicely. He did kind of pull away a few times but nothing too serious.
Then starts our third month of dating. He acts as if i am his gf. He gets jealous if a man talks to me, if i get a phone call or text, or if i will be going places with my friends where i could find a man. Occasionally he asks me to pick up his dirty laundry, make his bed, do his dishes. His car broke down and he called me to help him. He has opened up to me significantly and we have started having real meaningful conversations. He asks my opinion on major decisions he has to make. Has me proof read his imprtant business paerwork and then has me save it without him even checking it over. Feels very much like a relationship to me at this point. Oh, and we have both decided to be exclusive.
Last weekend i spent both friday and saturday night at his house which has only happened once before and that was when he needed help with his car that broke down. Friday night was great! We had dinner and during dinner the topic evolved to relationships. Not speaking directly about our relationship i was able to learn some of his views. For instance two older people kissing in public would always be an affair because married people wouldnt be able to sustain that type of love. I was surprised he thought that. I believe you can keep the passion alive if you work at it. He disagreed. I said i thought it was important to discuss things you want deom a relationship early on to discover if the person you are dating is even a dating cantidate. After all who want to fall in love only to find the other person wants only fwb. He said he wouldnt be a part of my future, he didnt want to get married, he was married to his job. I said really? Then he took my hand and gazed into my eyes and said no. He is not affectionate at all so for him to hold my hand across the table meant he was joking and could see me in his future. I said i didnt want to get married either, then he joked he would have to take the ring back. Then he said he didnt want to get married quite a few more times at dinner and once again before bed. Although he says he doesnt want to get married i dont believe him. He asked me twice before if i would convert to his religion if we were to get married to which i said sure. I truly do not want to get married and hoped that subject would not come up. I might consider it with truly the right man though.
Later that night we are in bed and i put my arm around him like i always do. He says i dont like people up on me while im sleeping. I waa a little hurt and confuses because that how we always sleep. So i rolled over to my side of the bed and stayed there until morning. The alarm goes off. Its now time to get up. So i figure i will try again. He says "stop, dont touch me" in a pouty childs voice. So im a little miffed but i dont say anything. He turns around and asks why im so grouchy, anyway it turned into a little spat. Our first fight. He actually even asked me to leave. We made up, he ended up being late for work because he laid in bed wirh me for too long. Nothing sexual, just talking. I told him i was learning a lot about him lately. He tuens much more affectionate. He kissed me goodbye, which he never does (i always thought maybe he didnt wanr lipgloss on him before work so i never made it an issue), not once but twice. Then he texts me on his break which he rarely does. I ask him if he wants to see me again and we decide to go to a movie.
Dinner, movie he completely slept through, and halfway througha movie at his place and we both fell asleep. No affection. No touching. No kissing. Nothing. Wake up in the morning. Heard him tell his dad he changed his mind about something on the phone. Dont have a clue about what but i was suspicious. I didnt say anything about it. He gets reasy we both leave. He again kisses me and hugs me with passion. I think everything is fine. He says he will call me later.
No call. I text him late. We exchange four or five texts then he abruptly announces hes going to bed. He usually just texts me until he falls asleep and apologizes rhe next day.
Next day i text him i think about him first rhing in the morning. He says thats sweet. I say hes sweet. Nothing else. I havent heard from him since. This is very unusual. We talk or text several timea a day everyday since the day we met. So monday afternoon was the last time i heard from him. Last night i fot very ipset and told him i didnt feel special or imprtant to him so i would just move on. It was late so he couldve been asleep. Didnt hear back. This morning i told him i was very disappointed because things were foing so well and what did he rhink. No text back. He is at work now. He usually doesnt text me at work but sometimes he will on his break. So i am being patient and hoping to hear back something from him tonight.
The problem i have is that he just went cold and stopped texting me. Even when i texted him his response seemed pissed off. We were talking about when my son is coming out and i told him when i was leaving but wasnt sure exactly when i would get back because i have friends i wanted to visit. Thats when he turned cold. He said oh, and 10 minutes later after i didnt text him he said he was going to bed. Hea never been like this before. I am so confused and hurt because deapite what he rold me about not wantinga gf i have fallen for him.
Please help!!