I've been hiding something from my serious girlfriend for over 2 years. To be honest, I can't believe I was successful.
I'm Aquaman.
On my left foot, I have 2 webbed toes. My right foot is fine. My girlfriend has never seen them. Maybe she has, but she doesn't know that I know that she knows, if she knows... lol follow that?. As a matter of fact, only my family (including cousins) know - none of my friends know.
I realize this is a petty issue, and the real issue is the fact that I didn't have confidence to tell her for the fear of her being disgusted. There are millions of people that would love to trade their medical condition for some webbed toes, and I feel horrible that this pulls me down so far.
I've come to the point where I need to tell her but not sure how she will react.
Ladies, how would you react? I have a feeling she might get upset not that I have webbed toes, but that I didn't tell her earlier. How do I break this news to her?
We have gone to the beach, pools, do lots of boating on her boat, and have sex... but in all such cases, I either wear closed toe water shoes or socks. I sleep in socks.
She questioned me one time on why I don't walk around barefoot, and I just told her I don't like the feeling of being barefoot, and that was the end of that. No further inquires, in over 2 years.
I need to tell her and work on this issue. I know it's a psychological issue. I was quite ridiculed when I was younger and I think it really got to me. Yeah, it's in the back of my mind that she will say "eww - I'm out" but honestly it's not that likely. And if it is, then probably a good thing I will find this out sooner than later.
Other than the toes, I'm a decent looking guy. I'm in my late 20s, I play lots of basketball and tennis, cycle about 50 miles a week, and I take care of myself.
I thought about getting surgery to have them separated, but I was made the way I am and it doesn't bother me (except mentally) so I think they will stay. Even the Dr. said why go through with surgery, pain, etc when they don't inhibit anything. So other than not being able to wear those ugly Vibram FiveFinger Shoes - no point in going through with the surgery.
Any advice/thoughts/suggestions? Ladies, how would you react?
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