i wouldnt blame the girl, theres been times i havent either. but you may want to ask him if he jerks it alot, he might be use to a certain feeling. to correct the problem start off with blow jobs....he will come around a bust sooner or later.
i wouldnt blame the girl, theres been times i havent either. but you may want to ask him if he jerks it alot, he might be use to a certain feeling. to correct the problem start off with blow jobs....he will come around a bust sooner or later.
Well that's good to know cs that erectile dysfunction stuff they mentioned is freaking me out....he doesn't have a problem getting an erection:-/
Its mental like i said, its a trust issue or comfort feeling that HE is use to. its not you.
Oops. I meant delayed ejaculation. Sorry.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_ejaculation
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
He could be not relaxed. Not used to it. Not ready for it. Does not want to do it at the time. Does not want to do it with you and maybe just has sperm count issues.
There could be lots of reasons and many were posted here. Ignore the one that said it was your fault. WRONG.
anxiety, desensitization from frequent masturbation, Attention deficit disorder, medication, illness, anxiety about cumming too soon, anxiety about pleasing you, anxiety about cumming at all. Don't make a big deal about it or take it personally as it will make it worse. Just relax and enjoy. Give each other a lot of physical touch make a game where you touch each other caressingly WITHOUT focusing on genitals. Full body massages and caresses and find each other erogenous zones. Kisses all over etc but orgasm is forbidden!!! sex is forbidden!!! Do this game as many times as you can ... watch what happens!!!
Very interesting. So what's happened? Are you still together and what's going on with this problem?
Sounds like a fun game;-)..... Definitely gonna do that....thanks:-)
As for what's going on....i've been out of town working since this post so we haven't had sex since....soooo....we'll see but I'll be sure to keep u posted in the coming days.
Hello!
I know you have had quite a few answeres but feel like I need to reply!
I myself struggle to ejaculate! However it is mostly during foreplay. I have only ever ejaculated off 2 blowjobs and 1 handjob!
It's really annoying and frustrating for me! Its NOT something the girl is doing wrong! Afterall, I have had many blowjobs and handjobs off different girls.
I can cum during sex but not easilly, I find to help me cum, I need a good constant rhythem weather its during sex or foreplay.
Just keep at it for a good 10/15 minutes. Dont stop the rhythem and pace.
I have a new girlfriend a the moment and really wanted to ejaculate for her when we had a weekend away so I didnt masturbate for a week (which was hard!!) but that also helped!
Last edited by jcowap; 28-06-12 at 07:11 PM.
I heard Yohimbe herbs is also a good alternative solution for erectile dysfunction. I've heard there is a homemade recipe you can try.
i have this problem too, i cant getting off with my girlfriend, (actual or previous)
i work hard to solve this problem. My cause is frequent masturbation with watching porn. My penis is accustomed to my hand not to hand my girlfriend.
I think a solution is absenteeism from masturbating and watching porn - this is very hard if you do this for many years.
i hope he will be okay soon.
I completely disagree to the too much jerking off to porn. For about a year I went on a porn jerk off marathon, masturbating at least 10 times a day everyday. I assure you now, even with a girl, I can keep going for at least 1 hour with no problems and I've even done upto 2 hours. Practicing a lot of jerking off using the edging method, (stop jerking or think about your mum eating a dead horse just before you cum) helps you get a bucket load of cum out and she gets 10 orgasms everytime you do it. I dont kid, this is a method used by porn actors; particularly Peter North, if you nameah.