What if I am deeply in love with a girl that already has a boyfriend?

[jalltheway]

I don't know if this is the right place to post this but PLEASE READ MY ENTIRE STORY I ask is for your advice. No one seems to be helping me out in other sites.

Ever since freshmen year I have been in love with this girl who has been the manager for the sport I am currently playing (there is a reason for not saying the sport).
Sadly, she no longer manages the team and has probably forgot who I am since she has not been in any of my classes and I rarely see her during passing periods and lunch. When I do see her my stomach drops, my heart races, and I feel like electricity is running through my entire body. The only for sure time I would see her is during her practice after school as I play my other sport (her sport is different than the one just mention and the one above). Every time I see her and her boyfriend together, it kills me and I know she really deserves a better loving man than him. On the bright side, hopefully she will be in some of my classes in next year and will get to know me again. If she does end up in my class, what if the seating rows are in alphabetical order, how will I end up getting to know her and how would she get to notice my many talents?

One of my friends however, has known her since elementary and says she is a kind, smart athletic and funny person (he does not like her, he already told me he likes someone else for sure).

It is now summer break (6 weeks) and every day I have been conditioning and working out 2-3 hours every day while thinking of her every second. I am also planning to get a job in the next week because I know if she miraculously dumps her boyfriend and falls for me, I would have to invest a lot of time and money on her.

Is it wise to try to become her friend first for her to get to know me? Also what are the odds that she and her boyfriend will be together when he graduates?(he is going to be a senior while she is going to be a junior like me)

Here are following traits that would describe me in order for you to give me advice for the future. Sorry if my traits seem to good to be true/opinionated

ATHLETIC
-somewhat muscular in that I am kind of skinny/ripped, have definition (six pack)
-2 varsity sports both for 2 years
- for sure 2 sports varsity both for 4 years by the time i graduate
-already have letterman's jacket
-won county championships

MUSICALLY INCLINED
-can play some songs the first time by ear (piano, uke, guitar)

-Should I play a romantic song in front of her?

ARTISTIC
-can draw almost anything but can be very time consuming (AP art student)

-already drew an almost prefect portrait of her on the last week of school and thought Y.O.L.O. but chickened out in giving it to her due to the possible consequences and regret. (I need help getting more confident and getting rid of my shyness).

INTELLIGENT
-honor roll since elementary school
-smart but not in a super nerdy way

-If she ends up in any of my class should I participate a lot so that if there were a project she would pick me as a partner since she would notice I am very smart?

KIND
-always giving friends who don't have lunch food from my own lunch
-letting people "borrow money"
-never cuss at parents or/with friends

Is there any way to make her notice me above her boyfriend without being cocky?

I for got to mention I'm a capricorn and she is a cancer in zodiac symbols. Is it true that opposites attract? I have herd that it is like ying and yang.

The thing is, I know that many other girls like me but they are not the ones I am interested in. The one I am in love with, is different than all the other girls I have liked in the past. I have not liked anyone for this long. I Truly love her and will do anything it will take just to get to know her and to win her heart.

[surfhb]

Your story sounds a little creepy...maybe thats why no one is helping. Just relax....no one gives a fuuck how perfect you may seem to yourself. Just be her friend for now and date other girls. She has a BF remember?

[smackie9]

You are obsessing in your fantasies.....it's obvious you are too socially inept to cope with real life and real relationships....get help.

[jalltheway]

How do I be her friend first and how would I approach her?

[surfhb]

Youve never met her? Did I miss something?

[jalltheway]

I think I forgot to mention that in a way she kind of knew me since she was the manager and that before anyone competed in the sport i was in, you would have to check in with the managers first.

[Angellic]

You have a crush on someone who probably doesn't know you even exist. It's not real, no matter how real it might seem. Start living in the real world and divert your energies into talking to and forming relationships with real women who are single and might actually notice you. Trust me - it will be a helluva lot more fulfilling.

[HeartIsAching]

I don't know if this is the right place to post this but PLEASE READ MY ENTIRE STORY I ask is for your advice. No one seems to be helping me out in other sites.

Ever since freshmen year I have been in love with this girl who has been the manager for the sport I am currently playing (there is a reason for not saying the sport).
Sadly, she no longer manages the team and has probably forgot who I am since she has not been in any of my classes and I rarely see her during passing periods and lunch. When I do see her my stomach drops, my heart races, and I feel like electricity is running through my entire body. The only for sure time I would see her is during her practice after school as I play my other sport (her sport is different than the one just mention and the one above). Every time I see her and her boyfriend together, it kills me and I know she really deserves a better loving man than him. On the bright side, hopefully she will be in some of my classes in next year and will get to know me again. If she does end up in my class, what if the seating rows are in alphabetical order, how will I end up getting to know her and how would she get to notice my many talents?

One of my friends however, has known her since elementary and says she is a kind, smart athletic and funny person (he does not like her, he already told me he likes someone else for sure).

It is now summer break (6 weeks) and every day I have been conditioning and working out 2-3 hours every day while thinking of her every second. I am also planning to get a job in the next week because I know if she miraculously dumps her boyfriend and falls for me, I would have to invest a lot of time and money on her.

Is it wise to try to become her friend first for her to get to know me? Also what are the odds that she and her boyfriend will be together when he graduates?(he is going to be a senior while she is going to be a junior like me)

Here are following traits that would describe me in order for you to give me advice for the future. Sorry if my traits seem to good to be true/opinionated

ATHLETIC
-somewhat muscular in that I am kind of skinny/ripped, have definition (six pack)
-2 varsity sports both for 2 years
- for sure 2 sports varsity both for 4 years by the time i graduate
-already have letterman's jacket
-won county championships

MUSICALLY INCLINED
-can play some songs the first time by ear (piano, uke, guitar)

-Should I play a romantic song in front of her?

ARTISTIC
-can draw almost anything but can be very time consuming (AP art student)

-already drew an almost prefect portrait of her on the last week of school and thought Y.O.L.O. but chickened out in giving it to her due to the possible consequences and regret. (I need help getting more confident and getting rid of my shyness).

INTELLIGENT
-honor roll since elementary school
-smart but not in a super nerdy way

-If she ends up in any of my class should I participate a lot so that if there were a project she would pick me as a partner since she would notice I am very smart?

KIND
-always giving friends who don't have lunch food from my own lunch
-letting people "borrow money"
-never cuss at parents or/with friends

Is there any way to make her notice me above her boyfriend without being cocky?

I for got to mention I'm a capricorn and she is a cancer in zodiac symbols. Is it true that opposites attract? I have herd that it is like ying and yang.

The thing is, I know that many other girls like me but they are not the ones I am interested in. The one I am in love with, is different than all the other girls I have liked in the past. I have not liked anyone for this long. I Truly love her and will do anything it will take just to get to know her and to win her heart.

Pay attention the parts of your post that I've bolded. Answers follow.

If she doesn't know you, and you don't know her, you don't love her. What you've got is plain old infatuation.

She will not "miraculously dump her boyfriend and fall in love" with you. You have to get to know each other first for the love part to happen. If you sit around and hope she'll notice you, she won't.

No, it is not wise to be her friend first. That's a great way to get "friend-zoned" and never have a shot at the ring.

No, don't serenade her. That's just creepy, and not at all like they portray it in the movies.

What month you and she were born in is totally irrelevant.

[haxan]

Boyfriend? Who cares. Men take what they want. You want her, go get her.