Thanks for your concern, I appreciate it. I don't think he was being a douche, he didn't know how upset I was for those days because I was keeping a distance from him. We barely spoke or texted in the following days. We don't live together and with work, school and other oblilgations we often only get a chance to see each other on weekends. I haven't seen him since Saturday.
From your feedback, I get the feeling this was a case of unclear boundaries, too casual a use of the word and my own over-turning this in my brain making it a huge deal when clearly it never was. He was clearly hurt and felt forced into something he didn't want but it wasn't to the extent I took it to mean by his use of that word. I don't believe it was manipulation so much as poor use of language and lack of understanding how we each took each other's meaning.
I will know not to take him literally in future. He will not use such extreme descriptions in future, I hope. We will work on clear boundaries and communication. Now looking back, I feel kind of silly for being so upset. I had no frame of reference and was kind of like a boiling teapot. All I kept hearing was that word, over and over again. You people have allowed me to open the spout, as it were, by talking about it thus clearing up what actually happened. I needed an unbiased third party opinion and I appreciate you posters that took the time to respond.