Should I be feeling this way? GF acting pretty cold

**lavalamp777** · 16-05-12, 11:19 PM

We met up last night to settle this thing once and for all.

She basically said that, she has a lot going on in her life (I knew this) and that she doesn't have the ability to make the kind of effort that I need in this relationship. She said she is stressed out, and that she feels helpless in knowing that I am feeling shitty because she isn't able to provide me with the attention I need. She made it out to sound like I am really some huge demanding guy, saying she never had a problem like this in past relationships. I told her that I understand the fact that she is busy, and that I am busy myself (I have a full time job and I go to school 4 days a week on top of that) and that I really still feel strongly about her and want to make things work, because in the end, when we are together, we have an amazing time, and she agrees.

I laid myself out saying that we can take things slow, no pressure, slowly rebuild what we had, and see where it goes. She said that she would want to do that, but, as going back to friends (exclusive friends, whatever that means). She said she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me, and that it might change in the future, but as of now, she wants to start at the beginning. I told her there is no way I can go back to being just friends, as far as I'm concerned, I'm still in a relationship that hit a rough patch but can be mended over time. She said she can't commit to being bf/gf. I told her this is where I draw the line, and that I gave it my all. She got in the car and left.

I know it's for the best

**smackie9** · 16-05-12, 11:41 PM

So sorry for your loss. I still think she is lying about her never having a problem like this in her past relationships. I think it was always the reason and now it has happened again. She is just too stubborn to admit it to you.

**lavalamp777** · 17-05-12, 05:51 AM

I have no idea

. I feel like trash, I tried everything possible to save the relationship, but, I just couldn't bend anymore and let her have her way, as she always has.

**smackie9** · 17-05-12, 11:31 PM

Well not every new relationship is guaranteed to be better than the last. Now you know you can't force things, it is what it is. You didn't fail, she did as a GF.

**qwerqwer** · 18-05-12, 12:46 AM

Have your own interests and hobbies. She thinks she is better than you. She may have someone else. If she doesn't reciprocate the way you want, move on and find someone else that will.