This guy I know has a girlfriend but they're like strangers together and she is the boss over him so badly.
He is very shy and gentle but seems to have a crush on me. He complimented me by the ton but stopped at one point (he is known as a play full pesterer, not as a charmer), he stares at my legs without hiding it, he eavesdrops A LOT, goes red, stalks my fb, goes hot & cold, tries to be around me a lot, peeks around corners to see if I got in yet, and started breathing heavily as I set next to him. We always stand very close, I can feel the heat rising from his legs, and he stares into my eyes for centuries. When he cannot bare eyecontact, he still takes the effort to wink. He even told this guy to go away as he was talking to me. He seems to be rather jealous of him though there is no reason to be.
I feel he flollowed me once after going out with friends, and we were both going home alone but as i turned around he had magicly dissapeared! He never tries to touch me, but this one time I handed him something and he tried to touch my hand somewhat longer. He totally lost balance after that and his eyes told me he was losing it. He looks at my lips when we talk.
He starts to grin like an idiot when he sees me (he was known as a grumpy man before i came along), when I remember something he once said he lights up. He sticks by me when in trouble and tries to cheer me up. he feels bad when he can not help me with something. He is a bit of an overachiever though. I once passed him whilest I was looking for him and he had a very hurt look in his eyes when he came after me.
But the thing is, he runs away when there's ever an oppurtunity to ask for a date. Even if it is mid-convo. He says he is very scared. He denies any types of invites I give him. I told him about this party and said 'you should have come, it was great!' and he just looked at me all puzzled and went: 'yea?..'.
He is a twinless twin, and I recently heard it's not very uncommon for them to do a bit of self-sabotaging and often maintain very bad relationships. Is this crap or true?
Because it has been 4 months now and we've hardly ever had a proper conversation, and I don't know what his plans are, seducing me to boost his ego?
I cant make a move on somebody who is already seeing someone. This girl of his is especially controlling and is definetly keeping an eye on me, as she noticed him staring a few times too many..
But if I shoudl just ignore all of this, I'd have to take him aside to please ask him to please stop extra-elegantly open doors for me and quit standing up for me etc..
And to become friends (wether it is as a start or not) is a very hard thing too, as he seems to love saying 'no.' to any type of invitation.
This is where men are a mystery to me. What to do?