Porn is it right or wrong?

[skeeziix]

My boyfriend and I got into a spat because he said somethings I found distasteful. We were talking about porn, I told him that I didn't mind porn myself. He said he had a few favorites and persisted to tell me their names and even shared a link with me. I got off the phone with him and a few seconds later got a text that "Pamela Henderson is gonna be tite tonight". I was like wow. I got pissed. Is it right that it hurt my feelings?

[skeeziix]

This isn't the first time he has made off-handed comments about other girls. Like "Oh, yeah she is so hot". Posting graphic pictures on his FB. Things like that. I guess maybe I don't feel adequate when he does that stuff? Am I supposed to be confident enough to ignore it? But then I feel I would be denying the truth, that it does in fact hurt my feelings.

[smackie9]

No it's not that....he is just immature. This has nothing to do with porn, this has to do with his nasty behavior towards you. He probably finds this humorous in some way.....hence the immaturity. You are best to find yourself a more mature, respectful BF. This one is a douche.

[Yet another guy]

You have the right to be offended by the text he sent. Seems to me like that's what it was meant to do. Quite an immature reaction to the spat you had.

I guess maybe I don't feel adequate when he does that stuff?

You guess? Do you mean that you aren't sure why you feel hurt?

If you want him to be discreet about porn and the appearance of other girls, I don't think it's too much to ask. On the other hand it would be even better for your relationship if you were confident enough to not take offence. After all, it wouldn't then hurt your feelings, would it?

[oneandonly]

How old is he? This is not about porn. He is very immature and disrespectful.

[bcgirl]

i'm sure if you told him how hot Ryan Reynolds is with his shirt off and posted pics on Ryan on fb and commented like "sexy buff body" your boyfriend would feel upset too. We are all humans and our feelings do get hurt. Some people are more sensitive than others. I would get very pissed off if my boyfriend made comments like that and being insensitive to my feelings. Some things should be kept to themselves in their own thoughts because it is inappropriate. He needs to be more respectful to your feelings and the relationship

[VincenzoG91]

How does an idiot like him even have a girlfriend? Is he still in high school?

[BoredGeorge]

I think porn is good, so long as it is not violent towards women. If a woman is already sucking your cock, there is no reason to hurt her unless she is not doing it properly.

Frankly I think you need to get over it. Men love to dominate and sexually degrade women and many women enjoy being dominated and sexually degraded.

If you don't like it perhaps you could join a nunnery or become a lesbian ?

[bulrush]

I think this thread is about how disrespectful your bf is towards you. He shouldn't be telling you how this other girl is hawt. However, don't let it get to you either. It's just that he's immature.

[bcgirl]

hey bordGeorge your name is gay and George sounds like a 85 yr old great grandpa name. Now shut up and eat my *****.

Some guys like to be talked down to and degraded. Did you like that?

[smackie9]

I think porn is good, so long as it is not violent towards women. If a woman is already sucking your cock, there is no reason to hurt her unless she is not doing it properly.

Frankly I think you need to get over it. Men love to dominate and sexually degrade women and many women enjoy being dominated and sexually degraded.

If you don't like it perhaps you could join a nunnery or become a lesbian ?

Tho I don't agree with your brashness...I like porn too and I don't know why it becomes such a big deal.

[dem862]

Right for some people, wrong for some people. It depends how it makes one feel. It sounds like your boyfriend doesn't have a problem with it, but you do. So you should tell him you have a problem with it, and see if he is willing to adjust. Some people need it to feel sexy, or it helps with feeling sexy. Other people might feel bad, guilty, or degraded. It can be addicting for some people, and they cannot live without it. This is a subject for you and your boyfriend to discuss openly. You probably won't get custom advice on a forum.

[smackie9]

This isn't about porn.......it's about his behavior. Even if the porn was taken out of this equation, she is still left with his poor behavior. Porn isn't making him act like a dip s hit, he already is a dip s hit.

[zertaag]

Your boyfriend sounds like an ass (no offense to you).

Apparently you cannot be open with him about serious matters. There is nothing wrong with watching porn, I am of the belief that just about everyone (hopefully over the age of 18 but probably not) watches it from time to time. I truly believe that some people just aren't adult enough to approach the situation with another individual, your boyfriend is one of those people.

I'd keep an eye on this kind of immature behavior as it can quickly sour your opinion of him. Also, he seems a tiny bit perverted...I have NEVER known anyone to post pornographic images to FB but maybe that's just because I'm a bit older.

[angelsnairwaves]

sounds like he just doesn't get it. doesn't understand why what he says tmi. of course he is going to find other girls attractive and enjoy porn, but he doesn't need to be so explicit with you about it. he is not a mind reader. you should tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable when he makes comments like that. maybe he simply feels like he can be very open with you. it sounds like he talks to you like you are a guy friend. but you're not. you're his girlfriend. try to explain it to him and help him understand. if he keeps making those comments afterwards, then you'll know it's because he doesn't care about your feelings, is disrespectful and immature and this will likely just be one of many problems to come. either talk to him about it or accept that this is the way he is.