Take $20 in ones for the strippers. They will approach each person around the stage (sometimes women go to strip clubs too!) Give them 1-2 dollar bills, put it in their bra or g-string but DO NOT take off their clothes. Take another $30 for drinks. If you want a lap dance, they are $20-30 and usually you have to buy at least one drink, plus pay cover charge when you are there.
For lap dances, the rules vary by state, but in Michigan you cannot touch the stripper. Just put your hands back on the back of the seat and enjoy. They will bump and grind.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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