My girlfriend of four months was treating me poorly last night and this morning. I went to her place last night because she had arranged for us to go out with another couple for dinner - we did that, and she was pleasant to be around and nice to me. As soon as we were alone in the car, a curtain of silence fell and she was very distant. We're both in our 50's...this isn't the first time in a relationship for either of us by any stretch of the imagination.
We went back to her place, and due to some recent day surgery, she announced that we'd have to wait a while before we had sex. Which was perfectly fine with me, I wouldn't pressure her into something that would be uncomfortable for her and more than that, I would want her to WANT sex - and she clearly didn't. Again - no problem and completely understandable.
I get up this morning and she's not in the bed, she's on the computer in the living room. I try to talk to her and I get clipped little one-word answers and exasperated sighs and looks over the glasses that say "Leave me alone". Originally, we had planned to do a daytrip today, but we had discussed last night that due to her discomfort from the surgery, sitting in the car for 6 hours wasn't ideal. OK, no problem, I can switch gears. We decided to just run some local errands. I start asking where she wants to go first and all I get are noncommital answers and harsh looks.
So, I started to pack my stuff up. She asked if I was packing to go and I said "Yep". She said she's sorry for her mood and she just wants to be alone right now. I replied that she's made that quite clear and that I've felt warmer and more welcomed at the Registry of Motor Vehicles. She blames the bad behavior on PMS. I call BS. Sure, I can empathize that she's cramping and uncomfortable on top of the discomfort from the surgery. But it doesn't excuse being deliberately hurtful to someone you've been saying "I love you" to for a while now. I've had three brain surgeries, a bowel resection and two hernia repairs. Never would I use the pain and discomfort to be hurtful to somebody else or to make them feel unwelcome. I was there at HER invitation, for crying out loud! Then to tell me she wanted to be alone?
This is someone for whom I just tracked down and got a very hard-to-find item for Xmas that she was happy to get. Someone who gets lots of love, massages and cuddling. I lsiten to her vent without trying to solve the problem for her, because she's more than capable of handling it - she just wants me to listen. But when it's my turn to vent, all I get is what she thinks *I'm* doing wrong, no matter the situation.
So, I left and I'll be damned if I call or text her. She wants alone? She's got alone. We were supposed to go out together on NYE, but screw that. I think this one is over and as much as it hurts, there's an element of releif at not having to deal with her poor treatment of me anymore.