Does she NEED space or are we DONE?

[911911]

So I was with my EX for 2 years. I left to a different city about 4 months ago to chase my dream. About a month and a half ago we started fighting over small stuff n I was beginning to act a little over the top. Found out it was for good reason, she cheated (kissed a guy) and hung out a few times. (I have cheated a few times and went all the way but she doesn't know)

I handled the situation TERRIBLY. I was so hurt. I kept wanting to talk about the same stuff and trying to fix our problems over one phone call like that could ever happen. She insists I stop acting over the top and just give her some time. She wants me back to normal, yet doesn't know what she wants at the minute. I feel she doesn't know because I have acted needy and weak and no woman likes that. I tried to convince her to give us another shot to see if it could work out, it was not a beg for her back. So I started no contact 4 days ago.

Do you think this relationship is done? I know she cheated and I should be done but I have done the same. I love her now and know that. I am going to be in her city for Xmas should I contact her? Should I answer is she calls me for my Bday? She always liked me so much and I never was ALL THE WAY THERE. A couple months ago I realized I wasn't the best boyfriend n was working on changing. I am so CONFUSEDDDDD… HELP

[Cerby]

Please see my response in other thread. Tell her you cheated, see how she reacts.

[sav]

wow thats all messed up ... i doubt she would want to be with you after you tell her that you cheated, but saying that i feel she needs to know as the guilt will be there if you work it out together . sounds like she may not want to be with you if shes cheating and wants a break ? i think in my experiences she doesnt want to be with you and is saying she wants a break cause she doesnt have the guts to tell you its over .. only my oppinion im not a social worker ..

[Boisdevie]

Tell her you cheated on her - and then wait while she cuts off your cock with a blunt spoon

[oldskool83]

dood ur fing done...u dont love shit but the idea of what your loosing. shes done, ur done. this threads done. wanna make it work....go to relationship cousiling...

[vashti]

If you loved her so much, why did you leave her alone after 2 years of being together? Do you think she doesn't have needs?

I think you set yourself up for this separation, and I think it is really crappy of you to let her feel guilty and ashamed for kissing someone after you left her, and especially when you have been f-ing around.

[Noslen09]

I find it absurd that you got mad after she kissed a guy, while you messed around with other women.

But to answer your question, everything between the two of you is probably done. In my opinion, once a cheater, always a cheater. But maybe that's just my bitter soul speaking.