So last night I had sex for the first time... the only thing was, for some weird reason I couldn't keep an errection. It only got hard enough a few times for me to fully get inside her, the rest of the time I had to finger her.. I feel soo bad because it seemed like she felt she wasn't getting me aroused, but I was very turned on, just couldn't stay hard for some reason.... I'm not sure what to do :-S.. we haven't spoken about it yet, I had to leave super early in the morning for work.
FYI: There was alcohol and weed involved too...
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11-12-11, 01:56 AM #1
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Can't keep it up... ?
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11-12-11, 02:29 AM #2
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alcohol and drugs can definately alter your body and erection. Too bad your first time had to be a disaster. Next time don't use substances....
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11-12-11, 04:35 AM #3
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How old are you?
Do you have high blood pressure?
HPB indicates your arteries are stiffening, and that affects...your stiffies. Seriously. Try to do cardio exericise 3 times per week, get off caffiene and illegal drugs, and talk to your doctor about it. Viagra and cialis can help. But they are often not covered by insurance, and Viagra costs about $25 per pill in the US.
And yes, high amounts of alcohol can affect this. So can stress, and lack of sleep. So can drugs. I've heard zoloft can cause this.I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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11-12-11, 05:42 AM #4
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I'm 23, have very slightly high blood pressure.. Actually, thinking back even normal every day random errections have been somewhat softer than usual the past week or so (I blame stress, seeing has how I hardly ever drink, smoke, or do drugs).. I was recently on something that could have altered my blood pressure a little but I was off it for a few days.. I guess it wasn't a total disaster, we both still had fun. It was just annoying for me that I couldn't keep it up
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11-12-11, 05:44 AM #5
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It could be a state of mind. First time having sex you could be feeling self conscious about how you are doing and the lack of confidence might wear your erection down. I had a lot of trouble the first time but after a while, a positive attitude definitely helps me muster a longer erection. Think about pleasuring your girl and not worrying if you are not doing a good job, she'll let u know if u aren't.
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11-12-11, 08:54 AM #6
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Well, she seemed to be having a good time, every so often she would get kind of weird and distant, like she'd say stop and for a few minutes get this really worried look and then she'd go back to being really cuddly. There were only two awkward moments where she seemed somewhat offended or worried about the fact that I didn't have an errection.
