Please advice me... I am genuinely in love with a Call Girl.

[Jovcal]

Ok here's my story....

I am a well settled professional of 38yrs here at Los Angeles, been together with my Girl friend for over 8 years now. She is also a working professional.

And for almost a year now, our relationship hasn't been doing very well. Especially after she started working, we got so busy that the only time we got together was in the evenings for a couple of hours. And also a few issues have creepe in, because of which we have not been as romantically close as we were in the earlier years.

So a few months back, I was checking online to see what kind of relationships people look for or basically to see 'whats out there'. And I came across this ad by a girl who was seeking a 'Benefactor' for mutual benefits and companionship, etc. Out of curiosity I contacted her, exchanged a few emails and came to know that she was a broke 27yr old college student living by herself, trying to make ends meed and pay her loans, etc.

We met a few weeks later for dinner. And a few days later I went to her house and we had good love making. I continued meeting her for another 2 or 3 times only for the physical gratification and she for the monetary benefits from me. But slowly I started to get to know more about her, from her and a lot more from some online research (I'm very good at this).

I came to know this, that she moved to Los Angeles from a small town in another state. That she had a bad childhood, where her parents never cared or provided for her and her siblings, frequent parent fights, the the parents divorced, etc. And she was also abused by many people when she was growing up, starting from when she was 10 years old, early teens, mid teens. Every one from her neighbors, friends, known and unknown people, everyone physically abusing her, in ways that would break any one's heart.

And after her high school, she moved to LA to join college. And she was a very attractive young lady with with no family or good friends support, in the big bad city LA, trying to work and complete college. Here also she was used and abused countless times. She did manage to graduate, but could not find any good jobs in her field. And somewhere around this time, she also had a Boyfriend for 6-7 years, but they broke couple of years back. And since then she's been trying to make her ends meet & trying to support herself, how ever she could, either with full time, part time jobs, and the occasional 'sleeping for money' setups.

Usually girls in this state of affairs, with no family support or good friends, totally disintegrate into prostitution, drugs and a low life. But she had the presence of mind to join another college for a professional program with better career prospects. But since she had to leave her jobs to study full time, the only 'income' she could make was by 'sleeping for money'.

And this is where I came in. Yes I do agree, that I came into her life as one of those other countless people who were out to pay for a sensual encounter with a desperate student. But as I came to know more about her, the more about what she has gone thru, the more about her desperate situation, the more I started genuinely caring for her.

Besides the financial help.., I started helping with her immediate and urgent needs, like paying her semester fees, her books, a new cellphone (she was using a broken cellphone), a few pairs of shoes, completely fixing her car (brakes, engine, axle, etc), and the most important thing is that I am not interested in any return favors from her anymore. I have absolutely no expectations from her, or demand anything from her. I don't want to use her anymore for my pleasure, I don't want to take advantage of her situation, I don't want her to feel low and down with the thought that she is selling herself to me. And the help I have so far provided, far exceeds how much probably 10 'customers' would have paid for using her.

And I am helping her more and more, in the next few weeks and months, I am planning to move her to a new apartment (leased in my name), buy her health and dental insurance, get her full physical done, do a lot of shopping for winter clothes, get her a new laptop, pay off her Credit card, attach her cellphone account to my bank account, etc..
And I also take her out to places where she has not been, but always wanted to. Places & restaurants she could never afford. Paying for and joining with her for Skiing classes, tennis classes, biking, hiking, swimming, ballooning, wine tasting.... everything she loves doing but either could not afford it, did not have the time or just gave it up because of her situation.

Basically I want to give her all the happiness and good times, she deserved to have but never got. I would like to do everything for her that her father, her brother, her boyfriend or future husband would give her or do for her.
And I have also spoken to my financial adviser about any Retirement plans, IRA's, Mutual funds I can start in her name, something she can fall back on, years from now, when I am probably not around anymore.

The only expectation I have for her, is that she stop selling herself. Because now I am taking care of almost everything in her life, she has no need to continue to do what she is doing. I am even taking care of her future & retirement.

But here is where I need all of your help and advice;

She does not know that I know, that she sleeps with of other men for money, so how do I bring up the topic to discuss with her and ask her to stop it?

How do I make sure that she really stops it?

How else can I help her or take care of her? What other needs do girls her age (or in her situation) have?

And finally....... do I marry her?

IMPORTANT ADDITION: Here is a very important I failed to mention above. I said above that I want to marry her, but not if she would like to marry me. I do understand and respect her choice of marriage. I may not be her type, becaise 1. I am over 10 years older, 2. I am shorter than her and 3. We are of different races. These points don't matter to me, but I would respect her choice of these or anything else that matters to her.

So if I am open to the possibility that she might not be marring me, then why am I still sticking around?

This is because, I really really care about her and love her selflessly, really want to get her out of the situations she is in, get her life back on a decent track. Support her like her father would have, her mother would have, maybe a brother would have or like a Boy Friend. Support her all the way thru her education, her life after that and all the way to finally where I would walk her down the aisle into the arms of a man she wants to marry.

Then, and only then will I let go of her.

[mwahahaha]

Think you watched pretty woman too many times, although it is a great movie.

[Jovcal]

Think you watched pretty woman too many times, although it is a great movie.

No, I have never seen that movie :-)

[dem862]

You never once mentioned how she feels about you. Whether she says she loves you or what. She does not turn down your money because, well, that would be stupid, and ethical. Any good call-girl, or escort, becomes very adept at making her johns feel like the only one. And with you she doesn't even have to put out. You have violated the number one rule when seeing a paid professional prostitute - do not fall in love with her, it is all an illusion. She probably won't give up her lifestyle. It is too easy and for them it is a tremendous ego lift to have men pay to have sex with them. Most of them enjoy the sex and do not see it as demeaning at all. Your male hormones have taken over your mind. Testosterone evolved to make men protective of their women and familes in order to preserve the species. It is natural, but really you have to control it in modern society, it is not so useful now because women can take care of themselves. Most likely, she is only interested in you for what you can provide for her. If you become too controlling or demanding, she will simply cut you loose. From the sound of your original post and the depth of your 'infatuation', you could be at risk of becoming a stalker. Good luck to you. I hope you don't let this ruin your life.

Oops, just noticed this was in the ask a female forum. I am a male, but I have some experience of which I speak.

[mwahahaha]

No, I have never seen that movie :-)

Behave, everyones seen pretty woman, richard gere and i forget the birds name , big lips , alway fckn moaning about womens rights and shit.
Anyway, you should hire it , total entertainment, and might answer a few of your questions.
Musta been luuvee but its ooover noooooo, fckn brilliant.

[mwahahaha]

You never once mentioned how she feels about you. Whether she says she loves you or what. She does not turn down your money because, well, that would be stupid, and ethical. Any good call-girl, or escort, becomes very adept at making her johns feel like the only one. And with you she doesn't even have to put out. You have violated the number one rule when seeing a paid professional prostitute - do not fall in love with her, it is all an illusion. She probably won't give up her lifestyle. It is too easy and for them it is a tremendous ego lift to have men pay to have sex with them. Most of them enjoy the sex and do not see it as demeaning at all. Your male hormones have taken over your mind. Testosterone evolved to make men protective of their women and familes in order to preserve the species. It is natural, but really you have to control it in modern society, it is not so useful now because women can take care of themselves. Most likely, she is only interested in you for what you can provide for her. If you become too controlling or demanding, she will simply cut you loose. From the sound of your original post and the depth of your 'infatuation', you could be at risk of becoming a stalker. Good luck to you. I hope you don't let this ruin your life.

Oops, just noticed this was in the ask a female forum. I am a male, but I have some experience of which I speak.

What kind of experience? You had sex for greens?

[Jovcal]

Quote Originally Posted by dem862 View Post
You never once mentioned how she feels about you. Whether she says she loves you or what. She does not turn down your money because, well, that would be stupid, and ethical. Any good call-girl, or escort, becomes very adept at making her johns feel like the only one. And with you she doesn't even have to put out. You have violated the number one rule when seeing a paid professional prostitute - do not fall in love with her, it is all an illusion. She probably won't give up her lifestyle. It is too easy and for them it is a tremendous ego lift to have men pay to have sex with them. Most of them enjoy the sex and do not see it as demeaning at all. Your male hormones have taken over your mind. Testosterone evolved to make men protective of their women and familes in order to preserve the species. It is natural, but really you have to control it in modern society, it is not so useful now because women can take care of themselves. Most likely, she is only interested in you for what you can provide for her. If you become too controlling or demanding, she will simply cut you loose. From the sound of your original post and the depth of your 'infatuation', you could be at risk of becoming a stalker. Good luck to you. I hope you don't let this ruin your life.
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Sorry about not mentioning that part. Yes she totally loves me, adores me and takes care of me, and I am sure it's not because of my money or the help I provide. She genuinely understands the concern I have for her and the fact that I treat her like she always wanted to be treated by her friends, family or her Bf. I have been in and out of love with quite a number of girls in my life. And I know a couple who were in it for the money, but not this girl.

And she is not a 'paid professional prostitute', just a genuine student in a desperate part of life. And if she really was a 'paid professional prostitute' she would never have joined college a second time to try to make something of her career and future.

[dem862]

Sorry about not mentioning that part. Yes she totally loves me, adores me and takes care of me, and I am sure it's not because of my money or the help I provide. She genuinely understands the concern I have for her and the fact that I treat her like she always wanted to be treated by her friends, family or her Bf. I have been in and out of love with quite a number of girls in my life. And I know a couple who were in it for the money, but not this girl.

And she is not a 'paid professional prostitute', just a genuine student in a desperate part of life. And if she really was a 'paid professional prostitute' she would never have joined college a second time to try to make something of her career and future.

Well, you called her a 'call-girl' in your thread title. That is different from 'a genuine student in a desperate part of life', is it not? There are PLENTY of college chicks who have sex for money. I know of an Ivy League girl who will do whatever you want for $300 an hour. Maybe this girl really does love you, maybe it isn't the money, I guess as long as you are happy and she is happy, then what does it matter. I think you will find out for sure if you ask her to marry you.

[dem862]

What kind of experience? You had sex for greens?

Ha, I should be so lucky.

[mwahahaha]

Well, you called her a 'call-girl' in your thread title. That is different from 'a genuine student in a desperate part of life', is it not? There are PLENTY of college chicks who have sex for money. I know of an Ivy League girl who will do whatever you want for $300 an hour. Maybe this girl really does love you, maybe it isn't the money, I guess as long as you are happy and she is happy, then what does it matter. I think you will find out for sure if you ask her to marry you.

Anything you want for $300 an hour, lol. Its a 20 where i live, ive heard. Shes ripping you off fella.
Shop around.

[MerryH]

I want to believe that this is a true story. I love it.

And she is not a 'paid professional prostitute', just a genuine student in a desperate part of life. And if she really was a 'paid professional prostitute' she would never have joined college a second time to try to make something of her career and future.

Okay, so she is not a "paid professional prostitute." Would a more appropriate title be "paid hobbyist prostitute?" Is that different? This makes her better than other women who sell themselves out of desperation? Does that make you feel better about shelling out cash for her?

Don't get me wrong, I love prostitutes. Nothing wrong with them. What is wrong is tricking yourself into believing that you have some special bond with one. That's just sad. Sure, she might actually like you as a person, but you're still a john to her and you always will be, as long as you keep throwing money at her. Remember that this is a business transaction, even if you're not reaping the benefits. And by "reaping the benefits", I mean "having sex with the woman you just bought."

And I know a couple who were in it for the money, but not this girl.

What! How is she not in it for money? You can't be serious. "This particular prostitute who I happen to be in love with is not in it for the money, she actually just has sex with men in exchange for money. Oh wait..."

This thread is entertaining. OP, please continue posting your stories about your hooker with a heart of gold. Also, tell us more about your girlfriend. Does she not put out anymore? Is she suspicious about where you're spending your money? What about when you die? Are you going to leave it all to the prostitute who you're not having sex with?

[dem862]

Anything you want for $300 an hour, lol. Its a 20 where i live, ive heard. Shes ripping you off fella.
Shop around.

Ew, I wouldn't touch a $20 hooker with your dick.

[Kaius]

hey man, no one is gonna tell you what to do with your money. You love her, and you want to make her life easier.
If you have the resources to support her, go for it.
But I think you need to break up with your girlfriend first.
Also, you have to expect that this young girl is gonna sleep with other men... she will always make reasons to
do so, because what you provide will just fuel her needs. She will want more.
Lastly, don't think long-term unless you are willing to introduce her to your family/friends.... people will
know her past.... The internet is a wicked thing.

If you are okay with all of the above, go for it an have fun.

[mwahahaha]

Ew, I wouldn't touch a $20 hooker with your dick.

Are you saying that $300 hookers are somehow cleaner than $20 ho`s? You can puta tiara on a pig, but its still a fckn pig.

[Fru]

I'm sorry, but this entire story sounds creepy. And what exactly are you doing about your current girlfriend of 8 years? I have to question your morals about that. You mention your GF once in the beginning of the post, and then it's all about this poor young student who's sleeping with you for "benefits."

At least break up with your current girlfriend before you engage in this type of weirdness.