Why do guys watch porn when they have a gf? And why does it upset gf? :O

[romantic_guy]

That's what my GF does. She asks why I don't jerk off thinking about her or looking at pics of her vs. looking at other women on the Internet. Her logic does not support your statement.

Unless I am misunderstanding, I think it does support her logic. It sounds like she is wondering if you find her sexy? If you found her sexy, then why do you JO looking at different women? Probably underlying this is her not understanding how you can imagine that you are having sex with someone with whom you have no emotional connection. I also presume that it is not that you find her unattractive. You are probably very attracted to her. Guys do it because they are sexually stimulated by sight. In all that I have read, a woman is not so much aroused by nude pics of men so I wonder how many women masturbate to pics of men? I would guess not nearly as many as in the reverse.

[Yet another guy]

I could totally believe that, cos they masturbating an everytime they masturbate that's more of their semen down the drain, an if they chronically masturbate, that's prob how why they run outta the stuff an therefore can't have kids no more cos they wasted it all masturbating. That's why I said all masturbation is bad an wrong. It's common sense.

You don't understand how testicles work. Your argument against masturbation is based on a false premise. Check [URL="http://anthro.palomar.edu/biobasis/bio_2.htm"]this[/URL] out.

Several hundred million sperm cells are produced daily by healthy young adult males. Between 200 and 600 million sperm cells are normally released in each ejaculation.

A man would have to furiously masturbate more than once a day for a few days to deplete his reserves (according to these numbers), but only needs to wait recharge a day to have plenty of semen again. Those ejaculated semen would have died anyway because they don't live very long inside testicles either.

Also, you're probably mixing up impotence and infertility.

[searock]

That's what my GF does. She asks why I don't jerk off thinking about her or looking at pics of her vs. looking at other women on the Internet. Her logic does not support your statement.

Yeah I kind of wonder about that as well. When I masturbate I just spontaneously think about my bf, rather than pictures/videos of random guys on the internet :|. My bf is much better, to me, than any of those guys. But I guess it's very different for guys. Oh well, as long as he desires me more than he desires any of those girls, it's ok I guess.

[KingZ]

Yeah I kind of wonder about that as well. When I masturbate I just spontaneously think about my bf, rather than pictures/videos of random guys on the internet :|. My bf is much better, to me, than any of those guys. But I guess it's very different for guys. Oh well, as long as he desires me more than he desires any of those girls, it's ok I guess.

Louis CK explains this best:

[searock]

He's funny . But I don't quite understand the thing he says at the end about men not being turned on by thinking about their wives. Why would they stay together with a woman they don't find desirable?

[KingZ]

He's funny . But I don't quite understand the thing he says at the end about men not being turned on by thinking about their wives. Why would they stay together with a woman they don't find desirable?

It's not about not being turned on, it's about the fact that we can think about anything.

Though, I do think about my girlfriend whenever I fap. She's amazingly attractive to me.

[searock]

It's not about not being turned on, it's about the fact that we can think about anything.

Though, I do think about my girlfriend whenever I fap. She's amazingly attractive to me.

This makes perfectly sense to me. But I think that any guy (or girl for that matter) who is in a healthy relationship naturally thinks about his gf when he masturbates. Maybe not only about her, but at least 50%. Anything different strikes me as odd and somehow wrong (not morally eh, I'm just saying that maybe then the relationship isn't that healthy).

[KingZ]

This makes perfectly sense to me.

lulz.

But I think that any guy (or girl for that matter) who is in a healthy relationship naturally thinks about his gf when he masturbates. Maybe not only about her, but at least 50%.

Be married to someone for 10 years and then tell me you think of him when you masturbate.

[searock]

lulz.


Be married to someone for 10 years and then tell me you think of him when you masturbate.

Why the lulz?

Yeah, I edited my post to add that, in my opinion, if you don't think about your SO when you masturbate, then there's probably something wrong with the relationship. Meaning that it's probably no longer a healthy romantic/sexual relationship (but might still a healthy friendship/family relationship nonetheless, it's not the issue now).

[Yet another guy]

Yeah, I edited my post to add that, in my opinion, if you don't think about your SO when you masturbate, then there's probably something wrong with the relationship.

Why would you have to think about anyone - even the SO - when you masturbate?

[searock]

Why would you have to think about anyone - even the SO - when you masturbate?

Ok then let me rephrase: if you don't think about your SO but you think about other people for most of the time, then there's probably something wrong with your relationship.

Although actually I would find it weird even if you did't think about any other person either. I mean to me it just comes natural to think about my bf. He's the "thing" that turns me on the most, so it's very spontaneous for me to think about him. Maybe it's just me.

[KingZ]

Human sexuality is far more complicated than trivial rules like "you have to think about me at least sometimes."

[bulrush]

If your boyfriend watches too much porn and ignores your needs, then there's a problem.

I don't watch porn when my gf is visiting. Ever.

If it were a different gf, I would be watching porn all day long, because she had no sex drive, and didn't care about my needs. There was a reason I watched porn. Actually it was grainy still pictures from 1987. Some of the earliest porn on the internet, before the WWW was started.

[smackie9]

I could totally believe that, cos they masturbating an everytime they masturbate that's more of their semen down the drain, an if they chronically masturbate, that's prob how why they run outta the stuff an therefore can't have kids no more cos they wasted it all masturbating. That's why I said all masturbation is bad an wrong. It's common sense.

OMFG! If god didn't want us to masturbate he would have put our genitals in the middle of our backs so we can never reach. Self pleasure is a gift, not a sin.

[smackie9]

I don't recall masturbation ever starting wars....but religion has.