In June, I broke up with my fiance, who I'd been with for 4 years (engaged only since January), because he wouldn't look for a job. For the last year of our relationship, he would just play video games instead of looking for a job, and I resented him for it. But I loved him, and I still do. I just couldn't keep going into debt and had to break up with him to prevent more debt accumulation (basically forcing him to mooch off his own family instead of me--I was a student with financial aid as my only source of 'income' for the both of us). Since our breakup in June, I've ignored his hand-written letters requesting to get back together. I recently found out that he's joined the Airforce, attained a job, and now he is making regular payments to me to help work some of his (our) debt off. Now, I am really missing him. In short, if he attains financial stability, I think we would be great together. The catch: I broke up with him once previously for not looking for a job, and gave him a second chance, which he also blew.
Now I'm dating someone who makes well into 6 figures (really, what he makes doesn't matter--just that he makes something, or if he gets laid off in these tough times, that he looks for another job). He treats me well. We've been dating 2 months. I'm certainly not in love with him (yet), and aside from being a little clingy and loud, he's great.
I thought I was over my ex, but apparently I'm not. I really do still love him. I know this is not fair to the one I am currently dating. Should I give my ex a third chance? Or wait to see how my feelings develop for this new guy?
Again: I understand that not everyone will be able to keep a job in this economy, and that things happen. I just expect that, while he is physically able, my partner continue to seek ways to earn a living until he attains one... not just give up!