Teen Porn?

[smackie9]

I probably slipped a 5er in his G-string.

[smackie9]

And wow there was more than a 5er in that G-string is you know what I mean

[Yet another guy]

And wow there was more than a 5er in that G-string is you know what I mean

Oh, I think I get it
Your friend gave him a 10er, right?

[Way2Roux]

I'm not a guy, but I'm going to respond anyway. My boyfriend watches a lot of girl-on-girl action, so should I be concerned that he wants a threesome? I, on the other hand, watch a lot of 6 packs w/over-sized cock railing it in the behind. Should he be concerned about that? I don't think so. We're both good looking people with nice bodies who love each other and please one another in the sack, so why should what we fantasize about when the other is not around be an issue? I think men search for 18/19 year-olds on porn sites because the girls tend to be better looking. I don't think you have anything to worry about

[Junket]

Seriously, it was pretty stupid to not clear his history. The first time I didnt even try to look. I was looking for something else and the auto complete took me to some porn site and then I started checking later.
My dilemma is that I'm concerned with the beliefs and values that go along with being interested I that type of porn. I feel like guys who are into that have feelings of inadequacy and fantasize about being with someone who is young, naive and inexperienced in order to feel better about themselves.
That's why this is such a problem for me. Even if I ask him to stop and he does stop; the underlying feelings and desires that drew him to teen porn in the first place are still there. I think couples counseling might be the only solution so that we could address those issues together, but he isn't someone who is very open to counseling and therapy, which is ironic considering my profession.
I also think asking him to go to counseling would be kind of extreme right now and he would feel like I'm pathologizing his behavior or something... Even though I do think it's disturbing
I don't know what to do

You may be a "psychologist", but you're still a woman, and you're acting like one right now.

[Way2Roux]

You may be a "psychologist", but you're still a woman, and you're acting like one right now.

She's being thoughtful and investigative. These are equally male and female traits

[smackie9]

you may be a "psychologist", but you're still a woman, and you're acting like one right now.

hahahahahaha!

[Way2Roux]

...and yet another eye roll in the "ask a male" forum

[Illusional]

hahaha, although it the porn says, "teen porn" i'm sure the actresses are hardly teens anymore.


raverboy

[tjb33]

we talked last night and i took a different approach, telling him that i didnt mind if he looked at porn, i just had a problem with chat and webcam stuff or anything that crosses the line into "personal." i even apologized for being closed minded and i told him that i would be willing to watch porn with him, just not teen stuff. his reaction was ridiculous and he said that he has not looked at porn in months because he knows it bothered me. then he admitted that he looked "A couple" times cause he knew i would never believe that
all of this came up because i was on a shopping website and there was a hot guy model in purple underwear. i made a joke about the ravens (cause we're in baltimore) and he told me that he didnt like me loking at other men online, that he wouldn't even be comfortable with me looking at a naked photo a man, just standing there. i expressed to him that i didn't think it was fair to have a double standard and why can he look at hardcore teen porn and i can't look at a naked model?!
The worst part was that he was extremely defensive when i was approaching the situation in such an openminded way. he insisted that he didn't have a problem and that he would never be interested in or seek out teen porn... somehow it just magically came to him
he seemed like he wanted to convince me that he felt teen porn was wrong, even after i told him i didn't care as long as the girls were legal. i just feel like it's weird that it's something that he is so ashamed of

[searock]

Yeah it's not a good thing that he's so ashamed of it, especially since you weren't trying to make him feel guilty or anything! How did the conversation evolve-end?

[Yet another guy]

The worst part was that he was extremely defensive when i was approaching the situation in such an openminded way. he insisted that he didn't have a problem and that he would never be interested in or seek out teen porn... somehow it just magically came to him

He does have a problem but it has nothing to do with porn. His problem is insecurity.
Also, why is it the worst part that he would never be interested or seek out teen porn? Would you prefer otherwise?

he seemed like he wanted to convince me that he felt teen porn was wrong, even after i told him i didn't care as long as the girls were legal. i just feel like it's weird that it's something that he is so ashamed of

It's because of your attitude. He knows that you have a problem and thinks that you want him to agree with your opinion. Pretending afterwards that you don't care isn't enough to change his perception of your stance. Then again, it's quite possible that he really is ashamed of having watched it.


Now, why don't you forget about the non-issue that is teen porn and concentrate on the real problem in your relationship. Your guy doesn't want you to look at pictures of guys. That's just as silly as this thread. He needs to work on his insecurities.

[tjb33]

I totally agree, the underlying issue is his insecurity. But I know that he feels very ashamed of looking at the teen porn because of the way he acted. I can understand his embarrassment and it's partly my fault for not approaching it better, but I just want us to have as much openness and honesty as possible in our relationship. We ended the conversation with telling each other what we would be comfortable with the other one looking at online. So I told him I just don't like the underage stuff and chat, etc and he went from saying- no naked guys to - I guess some porn is ok as long as it's not weird. It's so ridiculous, he has no idea what he wants. I told him so much personal and embarrassing stuff about myself during the conversation and he still didn't feel comfortable admitting to his teen porn interest.
I just have to decide whether or not his insecurities and shame about his interests is enough of a problem to cause our relationship to end... probably not.

[surfhb]

I totally agree, the underlying issue is his insecurity. But I know that he feels very ashamed of looking at the teen porn because of the way he acted. I can understand his embarrassment and it's partly my fault for not approaching it better, but I just want us to have as much openness and honesty as possible in our relationship. We ended the conversation with telling each other what we would be comfortable with the other one looking at online. So I told him I just don't like the underage stuff and chat, etc and he went from saying- no naked guys to - I guess some porn is ok as long as it's not weird. It's so ridiculous, he has no idea what he wants. I told him so much personal and embarrassing stuff about myself during the conversation and he still didn't feel comfortable admitting to his teen porn interest.
I just have to decide whether or not his insecurities and shame about his interests is enough of a problem to cause our relationship to end... probably not.

OMG....Are you a completely clueless or do you work at it?

We've told you these weren't underage women he was looking at...they are roped into a category in the online porn world as "teens" but are actually legal age women. I agree the guy needs to work on his insecurities. The first thing he needs to do is tell you to go **** yourself and You need to dump this guy for being a spineless twit.

If you were my GF, your ass would be so sore from hitting the curb it be hard to sit down for a week.

[Yet another guy]

So I told him I just don't like the underage stuff and chat,

How do you know he has participated some chat? Did he tell you that? Many free porn sites spam you with popups that advertise these god damn chats. You can't tell very accurately what he has done based on browser history.
What is this underage stuff that you are talking about? Adult actresses made up to look like 18 year olds (teens) doesn't have anything to do with the underaged.

It's so ridiculous, he has no idea what he wants. I told him so much personal and embarrassing stuff about myself during the conversation and he still didn't feel comfortable admitting to his teen porn interest.

Did it ever occur to you that you don't have any idea what he wants? It's very possible that he doesn't have interest in teen porn. Having taken a look out of curiosity or even by accident doesn't qualify as interest. You're jumping into conclusions.