Originally Posted by
wombat
When I have done the whole internet dating thing, I've noticed a majority of the guys DON'T bother to read your profile (or many wouldn't have bothered contacting me as it clearly stated I wasn't into the whole casual side of things - and my profile stated clearly what my genuine interests were etc) - it was a rare day to find a guy had actually taken the time to read my profile BEFORE contacting me - and for those guys who took the time to read my profile, I would happily respond to them.
I ALWAYS read a guys profile before contacting him - however, also found that many profiles were misleading as well - they say they were looking for one thing, when in fact they were after something else - their profile would contradict what they were really there for. In the end, I gave up as it was more of a "meat market" for hookups - at least in my area.
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This! What I found so frustrating was the one word messages that made it clear they hadn't even read my profile. Obviously a part of their numbers game. I set my profile up very clearly stating my particular interests and that I was looking to date with a view to a ltr. And yet...how many players sent me messages? I ignored each one. I responded to the men who took the time to read my profile. I agree that the men's profiles were misleading. This is what I don't understand, why lie? Say you're after sex and you'll meeta likeminded lady, just not me!
Originally Posted by
maxmax
I have met up with some girls who looked NOTHING like their photos. I mean, the photos must have been over 5 years old. Not only that, the 'toned and athletic' was closer to 'eats lard for breakfast' ... which in itself is bad enough, but then they have complained about other dates where the guys looked nothing like thier photos! Similarly, they have claimed to be interested in x, y, z, and then actually known nothing about these things lol.
What I don't understand and frustrates me is why people lie online. Why lie about interests? The truth will always come out if you meet. I don't see what it achieves in the long run. As for these people who do not update their photos, who do they think they are kidding? I met a guy several months ago that didn't look anything like the person in the photos. Disappointing.
Oh well. Lets bring the thread back on topic. I like men who are athletic and sporty, but are also intellectual. I don't ask for much.
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