To sum up a long story...I am 38, my ex is 41. Last year we were both separated from our spouses. Together a year before he went to Iraq. I have 2 small boys. He comes back from Iraq and insists we live together. I loved him very much, but I wasn't ready- my kids were still adjusting to my divorce, my Dad just died, etc. I just wanted a little more time. I am also pretty attractive, great personality and I "thought" a pretty good catch. We made a great couple and had great sex. I would have married him. But I didn't let him live with me. In fact, he pretty much chased me alot and just professed his love constantly- a few times I thought I was pregnant. He tried that too on purpose a few times. 6 months after I told him we werent living together, a collegue of mine blows the news and recently discovered he wasn't living on base...but with another woman. An ex-butch dyke none the less....Fat, Ugly, thinning hair...Gross! I was livid! I packed up his shit, called her (she is a local teacher) blew his ass in and threw the shit on her porch! She was devistated also, but "so in love with him". She showed me all around thier home- she cooks, cleans and wipes his ass practically. She showed me credit card billls that she paid WHEN HE TOOK ME OUT! I dumped him faster than a NY minute. Now the last year he continues to profess his love to me, begs me to take him back, he messed up....he loves me...etc...Here are my questions? Why TF do you still live with someone you don't love...why would you go from a Barbie like to to her???? She pays the bills and cooks for you...WTF? I loved him, but I will not tolerate BS....WHy did he do this and why can't he let me go? Why wouldhe stay with her?????? why why why???