Here is the thing, the only reason you want your ex to think of you like that is because in the back of your head you still think she cares about you. When you do truly heal, you'll realize you don't give a sh*t about what she feels or how she thinks of you. All this "I want her to remember. . ." is just your heart playing games with your head.
If you're a 2.5 months and still not over it, then she obviously meant a lot to you. But the truth is, SHE is over YOU, probably doesn't think about you at all any more, and probably doesn't care what you were to her. You need to get to this point, and thinking about her every day and breaking your own NC rules are completely the wrong direction.
You need to start actively healing, and not just hoping it will get there. Start rehab for your heart, go have a one night stand, get out and have some fun. She isn't in your life, she doesn't care what you're doing, and thinking about her daily is just wasting time on thoughts that aren't returned.
Harsh? Yes, and anyone who is crying for 3 months over an ex should get a harsh wakeup. Its over, move on, and give yourself the power to do it yourself.
"All is fair in love and war." - Francis Edward Smedley