Am I just his f*** buddy?

[ctr916]

I can't speak for the rest of the guys but I'm exactly the opposite. If a girl had sex with me right away, I would never let her go.

It can be pretty convenient sometimes. But, many women have issues when they know what they want, and may not feel the need to be a (girl) friend if they cannot manipulate a guy into a relationship on their timetable.

[Wakeup]

I am trying to be less judgmental by watching porn and not judging women by the clothes they don't wear, on the internet.

You make it seem like women who know what They want do not want to waste Their time being a girl friend to a guy.

I make it seem like that to you who has no personal or sexual boundaries. Which is a good thing for me because I don't need to be friends with people who don't have any values or completely different values than what I have. Like attracts like.

[Yet another guy]

What? even if you discovered she wa a whack job to the 9th degree? A stage 3 clinger. A stalker and a promiscuous sociopath. Wow! You're not hard to please

You're taking me a bit too literally, I see But no, I'm not hard to please.

[Wakeup]

You're taking me a bit too literally, I see But no, I'm not hard to please.

.. just joshing with ya.

[ctr916]

I make it seem like that to you who has no personal or sexual boundaries. Which is a good thing for me because I don't need to be friends with people who don't have any values or completely different values than what I have. Like attracts like.

I don't mind paying for sex because it provides market friendly boundaries; and that form of objective, "market" based reality.

[Wakeup]

Good for you. You should be proud.

[Bella82]

Like your momma always told you if you give it up right away, the guy will not respect you.

Don't think this is necessarily true, especially if both are enjoying themselves. A girl isn't exactly "giving it up" if she wants it to begin with - makes it sound like she got conned into it, when it doesn't sound to be the case here.

Bittersweet, if you're feeling now that you would like to get to know him more, let him know.

[ctr916]

Good for you. You should be proud.

Thank you; but it is not pride; but simply being moral and ethical enough to bear true witness to Capitalism whenever I cannot bear true witness to the Socialism of Religion; and that form of Objective, "market" based reality.

[Wakeup]

there ya go

*slowly backs away*

[ctr916]

Are you always such a ham; for the dramatic effect?

[Henry123]

Whats your intuition about this guy bittersweet00?
Is he moving too fast?
Does he physically touch or handle you in a way that triggers off certian feelings (PUAs call it "kino").
Does he acts like an "Alpha Male"?
etc.

Be aware there are guys out there who are "pick up artists" (PUA) who knows how to get into women's pants very quickly.
Since he hasnt even ask for your last name or get to know you I highly suspect he might be a pick up artist or something. (red lights should be going off)
imo Get rid of him.

Even that said. If someone doesnt bother know you its rude and its probably because he doesnt care.
Any guy whose serious with a girl would know her more and know her last name. I say just get rid of him.

I dont think anyone likes to be used and hurt in this manner.
Just watching out for a sister here.

[smackie9]

I can't speak for the rest of the guys but I'm exactly the opposite. If a girl had sex with me right away, I would never let her go.

You are in a different class.....you probably rarely get the opportunity to actually have a woman interested in you sexually so you take what you can get.

[smackie9]

I agree to disagree. Simply engaging in human sexuality no reason to lose respect for someone who was participating with you. In my opinion, your attitude about "hitting paydirt" is typical of some women who may have difficulty being friends with fellow human beings who may be male.

FYI the majority of my friends are male...where do you think I get most of my information....in terms of losing respect....it means the guy's additude towards a girl that sleeps with them right away DOES change. I've talked to many guys about this and they have all been there and hit that and say the same thing about it. I have seen my GF go through this many times with guys and she couldn't get it in her head why they didn't want a relationship....duh.

I'm sure there has been the rare occasion it has bloomed into someting more....but there's usually that nagging voice in the back of a guys head that says "If it was that easy for me to sleep with her, will she do that again with someone else?"

[devonbrown]

OP, it is actually pretty simple. Ask him out. On a date. With limits and boundaries and not just a hookup. If he accepts, he may be interested. If he doesn't, then you have your answer.

Good luck.

[Yet another guy]

You are in a different class.....you probably rarely get the opportunity to actually have a woman interested in you sexually so you take what you can get.

That's quite true but that's not why I prefer easy girls. If I had girls waiting in line to date me, all else being equal, I'd still hold on to one who had sex right away. I wouldn't have patience for people who are afraid of showing affection. I prefer girls who want sex because I have a high sex drive myself.