To be as brief as possible, ex and I dated for 3 years. He broke up with me 1.5 months ago and I moved back home (so now we are long distance). I graduated college and am going to professional school in the fall. He has another year of undergrad, so we knew we would be long distance. He broke up with me for many issues, mostly because of the arguing. Well, I am his first serious girlfriend and I was broken. We had limited contact throughout the breakup, and he started talking to another girl. She is someone he met right after we broke up. She is working in a diff. state, but will be back at school with him in the fall. They skype and text occasionally, according to him. I decided to go to NC to move on. After strict NC, he got desperate and started texting me how sorry he was and that it was his fault we ended.
One day he begged to talk, and he said that he would like to take things slow and see where it goes. Over the last 2 days we decided to hash out our past problems and let the resentment go. Well, I asked what "taking it slow" entails for us, and he said we should remain single and see where talking again takes us. I brought up this girl he's been talking to, and he somewhat admitted to having a crush on her, but that he is not considering dating her. He said he would never hook up with her, but did not say why. I still feel weird about it. He said I should talk to other guys, because he wants to be sure we are not getting back together because we are lonely. I told him I feel like he is comparing me to her, and he said it is a good thing because we need to be sure before getting back together. He said he is not looking for dating anyone, but I don't know... he seems infatuated with her to some extent, and is obviously not going to give up talking to her. He said he feels comfortable talking to her because they dont know each other so he knows she won't judge him.
So from a guy's stand point, is he just having his cake and eating it too? When I told him I wasn't sure about this, he got defensive and said "why can't we just have normal conversations and not try to make things awkward?" When I said "So, I should date then?" He said that I should 'talk' to other guys, but dating is a bit much. WTF. help me out guys, he is so hard to understand, and I do not want to be played for a fool. It is obviously not about sex because he, she, and I are long distance.