at what point does porn become cheating?

[sammygee]

I get asked this one a lot and thought I would hand it over to the guys. All men look at porn without exception as it is everywhere. That is fine. But when in a relationship and they pay money to chat to girls or watch them live online is that now cheating?
what do you think?

[maxmax]

Is going to a strip club, chatting to the girls and watching them get naked cheating? Generally speaking, no.

I would guess the same applies to the scenario you have just described. However, that doesn't make it right, or acceptable, as that would largely depend on the relationship and the 'boundaries'' within it.

But cheating? I think you'd be hard pushed to go that far, although that isn't to say it might not become an obsession, which is a different problem entirely.

[HeartIsAching]

At what point does ordering in become cooking?

Never.

[Gratedwasabi]

I think anything where it becomes personal, ie chat, webcam, etc, is crossing a line. Then again, others don't. You need to set boundaries and make them clear for your own relationship.

[pepsidude]

Hey.

I agree with Gratedwasabi about the becoming personal stuff. I would also like to add, that when the porn starts to interfere with your relationship, like he losing interest in enjoying your body and rather focusing on porn, then it is a problem. But, if he occasionally watches some porn online (again, perhaps chatting is a bit too far for my taste) there really shouldnt be that much to worry about.

[sammygee]

Couple of good answers. Thanks guys
I always tell the girls who ask me, if it is a problem for you, cruise online for the hottest looking naked guys you can find and save them all over the place. In your favourites, in your photos, wallpaper and faecbook. And dont forget to bookmark a stack of gay porn sites and female porn sites as all those guys are ripped and hot looking. Bookmark a couple of chat sites too, then .....Tell your partner. "It's ok I do it too. look" and the boyfriend gets to feel inadequate in the face of perfection too. Men can't stand the thought of women getting off to studly looking guys, so they usually cut a deal.... Or not. Either way can't beat 'em join 'em, right?

[VincenzoG91]

Some porn stars also do escort work. So porn could actually become cheating if the guy really had sex with the porn star. They charge a lot of money compared to normal escorts, so this isn't something that most guys would do.

[Yet another guy]

at what point does porn become cheating?

When he becomes a performer.

[toshiba]

I wouldn't call it "cheating", but my GF does not like the idea of me getting off to images of other girls.

[SwampDonkey47]

In a mans world there's nothing wrong with porn. In every genus of life on earth there has to be a positive sex, a gender that wants it all the time and is ready, and for human's it's us men. Without it we would die out as a species. Imagine what would happen if men were hormonal and menstruated? As it is you only have an 85% chance of conception if you have sex with a loving partner for a year! Porn enables men to explore their sexuality and to indulge their fantasies without being a pain in the ass to their partners. Love and sex are very different in our world and this is one way of keeping them apart. I would totally agree with the others, if it's personal, it's not right.