First, I am going to say that we both are 41 years old.
I am kind of the shy type. She isn't.
She is far above average good looking. Not for her age but for any age. Without trying to sound stuck on myself I guess some may say that about me also.
That being said I don't have a crush on her. It is more physical and the hope to go out with someone like her.
However, every time I've seen her she came on too strong for me. Always looking me directly in the eyes saying "hello" and giving me "choosing signals". I'm not used to women being that nice to me and didn't know how to handle it. This had messed me up for 2 or 3 months. She's also a barmaid and I know one of the rules of dating is stay away from barmaids and strippers. I suspect she was also a stripper.
She is 41 years old and been bartending for 20 years. Got pregnant at 18. Hypersexual in speech and her interests. I know, all are big red flags.
Well, after much thought I finally decided to talk to her last week. I went into the bar and had a short conversation with her and she was interested in me and I didn't know how to handle it. Things went along pretty good I thought. She really wanted me to come back and see her again.
The next day I went back and she was too busy so I decided to talk to her again the next day she worked which was 5 days later.
5 days later I sat down ( I eat soup there and don't drink often) and she didn't greet me. No hello or nothing. She averted her eyes while walking past me and was just quick and polite when I tried to speak to her.
The next day, yesterday, the same thing. I was there for an hour and we talked but she no longer had interest in me. I had to inninate every conversation. However, at least she was nice.
Anyone know what may have happened? Did the length of time between when I visited her make her feel her advances were spurned?
Perhaps being so hot and working in a bar for two decades she is used to guys "picking her up" right away?
It is no longer a big deal to me anymore but I'd like to take a shot at turning this around.
Please advise.