Dear members,
I am in quite a pickle.
I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. I'm 29, and he's 33.
He recently had to move back into his grandmother's house because she past away and he needs to take care of his grandfather and settle his affairs. His best friend since childhood lives down the street.
His best friend and him have a long history of being bad influences on each other.
I found out my boyfriend was an addict 6 months after we started dating. Things got much worse when he would be around his best friend who is an alcoholic. Finally his friend went into rehab and so did my boyfriend.
My boyfriend has been sober for almost a year now. He's finishing school and getting his life on track. But now that he lives so close to his best friend, they are beginning to spend a lot of time together. The best friend is also sober, but is now more concentrated on "getting laid" than working the AA program. I already see my boyfriend acting differently in just the past few days.
I don't know if I'm overreacting because of all the things that happened in the past.
Should I trust my boyfriend to not fall back into the same old pattern with his friend?
Am I wrong in asking him to spend less time with him because he's been such a bad influence in the past? Also, his therapists in rehab said they shouldn't spend much time together since they are "triggers" for each other.
And lastly, the best friend is always around other girls since he's basically using the AA program to meet women, and since he's the one that drives to the meetings my boyfriend ends up going with him to dinner with these girls.
I don't know what to think.
Any help from this community is most welcome, please.