My Girlfriend has been with alot of guys. advice?

[jeza]

Ive been seeing this girl for about a month now and a few weeks ago she let out that shes slept with 25 guys. 4 of those being bfs. Shes only 19.
I was fairly shocked by the number being that shes only 19 and now Im not sure what to do. Its doing my head in and im always getting thoughts and images of her being a slut and letting herself out so easy. Some of these guys ive seen on facebook and basically by the looks she had no standards
She also slept with her ex a week before we met which gets to me to.
Ive been giving her a hard time about which is making her upset aswell.

I just dont know if I should accept this or just move on. She said she has alot of self esteem issues and when her bf slept with her best friend it really hit her hard and that was a big reason for her sleeping around.
Any advice would be good
thanks

[reeba]

Levae her now. Because obviously the fact that she slept with 25 guys bothers you, and it will most likely always bother you.

The girl needs therapy, not # 26.

[Petit Papillon]

I have an advice but it will probably help you in your future relationships... DON'T ASK ABOUT SEXUAL HISTORY OF YOUR PARTNER IF YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH.

[reeba]

I have an advice but it will probably help you in your future relationships... DON'T ASK ABOUT SEXUAL HISTORY OF YOUR PARTNER IF YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH.

To some extent this is true.

However, the old saying - you are what you eat. Also translates, you are what you eff. Who you date/eff/befriend is a direct reflection of who you are. I don't want all the steamy details, but 'lack of standards' and 25 would be info I would be wondering about. Something is not emotionally/mentally right with this girl.

Nowadays people do credit checks, legal background checks, internet stalking to see what chatboards people belong to, ask friends 'so tell me about so and so' - wouldn't past relationships hold some bearing too? If someone was divorced 4 tmes, I would be hesitant about them. Or were 40 and never had a serious relationship.

Or should people just enter each potential relationship blindly with full trust?

[Petit Papillon]

I do enter relationships with full trust , cause I believe everyone deserves it at the beginning . It's people's business to keep me trusting them. Look at it otherwise. If you enter a relationship without trusting at all, i guarantee it , this relationship won't work .

I want to add, I prefer to disappoint myself on somebody , than not try at all . It can hurt a bit , but eventually it'll stop and I'll be one more experience richer.

[hello1]

Okay it is a lot of people! but I cannot judge you for either way you choose. If you cannot handle it then dump her but then you have just made her number higher, she is now at 26!

[ProveMeWrong]

Chuck the bitch, she's obviously a slut.

[girl68]

If you're going to get over, get over it. This means you are never allowed to bring it up again.

You probably won't be able to get over it. So dump her.

Next time as PP said do not ask. You ask if she's clean, and to get tested to prove such. Leave the topic alone. Also she has issues. She thinks boys will like her if she puts out. This is obviously false. She's reaching out for help and no one is listening. She needs to build up her self confidence to realize she's more than a mouth and a vagaina. I wish help on her.

[Nice Lover Boy]

You are probably her #35, not 26.

[DoesntMatter]

Jeza, think about what is causing you the trouble here.

1) Is it because of her past (i.e. she HAS slept with 25 guys in the PAST) that is causing you trouble?

2) Or is it because you think she will just as quickly skip along to #27? (the future / present)

Number 1 shouldn't be a problem. Number 2 is a serious problem. And given she has been with 25 guys, it is quite likely you will be the short lived #26. Just another fucck stick for her.

Realize the situation for what it is, even though it's gonna be really hard if you like her

[qwertz]

She's a slut and an idiot, she shouldve lied. Either get over it quickly or find someone else.

[Unstoppable]

Exactly, a slut like all of the others, deny her existence.

[Petit Papillon]

He's just a troll, don't listen to him

[queenslandspida]

Bro

This sort of shite pisses every guy off! We all hate that our gf have slept with more than a few guys and we hate it even more if they were one night stands. Every guys like to have a gf who has slept with only a few, if any, guys and even then, they were nice nerdy guys who were totally inferior to you in everyway. it is is that latter bit that is the main problem, you my friend have an issue with the thought that these guys were better than you, they had bigger dicks, better in bed better looking everything...and guess what ITS NORMAL to be like that, because every guys is!! we hate it!

now then, a mans prejudice to their gf's number of partners is all down to our morals and social upbringing. looks at tito ortiz...his gf is a porn star jenna jameson, who has made more cocks that a second hand dart board. do you see him crying? hell no! i bet he gets off on it! and there is nothing wrong in that either!

what you are feeling is totally normal! it doesnt matter if its one guys she has been with or 100, it is society and your own morals which will be the discriminating factor. if you like her, believe me, it really does not matter.

she is less likely to go out and 'try' other guys, because she knows the score! some gfs who have not had much experience desire other guys so much due to their lack of sex that it ends relationships. and finally, this is most important, if she is a bitch, she will be a bitch and will hurt you...this has nothing to do with numbers. ive had gfs who have had few guys but have turned out to be complete bitches! ive had gfs who have been with loads of guys, 30 (and thats what she told me) who have been amazing wonderful gfs.

its normal how you feel, but you have got to get over yourself. be more confident! is she has been with 26 guys and is still staying with you, dont you think that means something?!...you are clearly lovely in her eyes and a stallion in the bedroom! YOU DA MAN! and dont let anyone tell you otherwise!

[girl68]

She's a slut and an idiot, she shouldve lied.

Did I read it wrong? Where is it said that she lied?