So my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 5 months and we are close and can talk about basically anything to do with ourselves and my friendship circle but when it comes to his the dynamics are off. There are only two girls in a circle of about 10 single guys and two in relationships (us being one of them).
When it comes to one of the girls I have always been a little bit 'wary' of her as she is very flirty (which I know may be natural). Since my bf and I have been dating he loves posting little lovey dovey status updates and she has always commented on any facebook status he put up saying things like "naww aren't you the sweetest" all the time!!! Just before valentines day he and his best friend (the two in relationships) went shopping for valentine's day gifts; they bumped into the other two girls and they tagged along. Later that night her status is "Pretty sure I have never been this jealous thanks to *my bf's name*" Now I was on alert and we (being her, me and my bf) had a long light hearted chat which ended by her saying "wish i had someone like *my bf's name*"
I let it go because he was supported me and said - "sorry *her name* but i all taken"
However it didn't take long for everything to rise up again as he asked me to send a text to her asking her to "bring *something* tonight" I asked him if he was seeing her that evening (duh?!) and he said "oh she is going to a friends party .. i would have invited you to come along but i know you have youth"
I spoke to him about how I felt about her and that I had this jealous feeling inside me and i hated it - all he said was "don't worry about it"
I was hurt but would get over it except there was a massive fight between his best friend and this girl . The fight went on for days and I warned him to watch what he does because it appears to outsiders that he is taking her side. he swore he was only mediating. I asked him to tell his best friend that and to discuss things with him = he did and all was fine (or so i thought)
Having not had access to internet i hadn't been on facebook this week and between seeing me at 1700 and 1830 on tuesday he went and had coffee alone with this girl - i found out because she posted on his wall "thanks *my bf* I really did need to talk to someone"
What do I do .. I move to university 2.5hours away tomorrow and I love my bf so much.