My girlfriend met this girl and we all started hanging out. Her friend kept wanting to drink and get messed up around us and spend the night in our room and stuff. I told my girlfriend she should talk about having a threesome with the friend and my girlfriend said she would. But every time the friend would want to hang out or spend the night my girlfriend would try to avoid her staying but in a passive aggressive kind of way. I always told my girlfriend SHE needed to say something to initiate it because she was her friend but she said she was too scared.
I really liked her friend, even more than my girlfriend. I think we have a lot more in common plus shes way cuter but mostly cause shes way awesome. One night after my girlfriend had her friend leave in her usual passive aggressive manor i decided to follow my heart and tell her friend how i felt. They were co workers and the friend decided her loyalties should remain with my girlfriend. But i feel like the fact that they were co workers and we were already dating made her choice a foregone conclusion. But i also feel like that she maybe liked me cause we were always hanging out and she would always want to stay over. Her friend also ended up quitting her job the next day.
Now i lost my girlfriend over this because i risked everything and apparently lost. What should i have done different? Was i lead along or was i just misinterpreting the situation? Should i have followed my heart and risked it all or should i have been like a "good boyfriend" and remained the current situation and settled? I've been wanting to talk to her friend but how long i should wait before i approach her? Is it possible that the friend might like me but was forced to act against it because of the politics of the situation? I try to justify it and say its my girlfriends fault for not talking to her friend about it but i know its not her fault. I really like her friend and the weight of it all is over bearing....