Porn - Should it worry me?

[red_sparrow]

Porn .. Should it worry you?

Only if you can't get your hands on anything good.

[Aniphilia]

Watch it with him, he would LOVE it if he saw you were into it. My ex and I would take turns picking and we usually agreed on the ones we didnt like. ifeelmyself and ishotmyself are fun too. ooh, how about the next time you feel randy, you hit up one of the aforementioned sites and when he comes home ... well..........

Be the change you want to see in the world.... in this case, your bedroom, woot!

And dont tell me you wont like it just because of how you feel about him watching it. Doooo eeeeet!

[mindinfuture]

Oh well, porn sites wouldn't be around if they were not watched. Besides women watch it too. If he does it only once a week, he is not addicted. And the fact that he had gotten rid of several porn videos means he is not really that serious about it. Possibly, it entertains him. Don't worry about it.

[HeartIsAching]

Im after alittle more advice after thundersw's post -

Everyday...then you've an issue to take care off.

I've was on antibiotics last week and we didnt have sex due to my pill not being as active and neither of us like using condoms. We have had the odd joke about wanting to do stuff and having some fun but nothing happened of course. This week, we've had a few ups and downs, a major argument on monday evening and I had minor surgery yday which made me all groggy (again no sexual pleasure between us) i asked him yday when I satarted to feel alittle more myself if he fancied sex (just as a joking conversation) he said he didnt feel randy and sometimes he could feel that way for a few days, which he had.

However, dont moan about my snooping but everyday this week, within about 20 mins of me leaving the house in a morning - guess what, he logs onto porn websites.

Is this normal? I'm extremely confused.

Don't moan about snooping? Why the hell should we not?

And I've got a serious question for you: how do you know what time he's logging into porn sites?

[LOVE_CONFUSED]

We share a search engine account and I can view it from work, I only found out by pure coincidence a few weeks back that I could see this kind of stuff and as much as i annoy myself by looking I cant seem to stop it because its as if its some dirty little secret that he cant wait to get his hands on. Granted, he doesnt do it every day but when he does I picture him in my mind as watching me leave the house and making sure im definately on the way to work before he gets the websites up and running.

[Yet another guy]

Doesn't seem like he is trying to keep it as a secret considering that he is using your search account.

[Aniphilia]

Wont you just forget everything you have built up in your head and take my advice as stated above, just rooooool with it. have our own fun.

And watch out for the damn birth control pill.. it can ruin your sex drive. I think women can now get the paraguard IUD (hormone free) inserted even if they HAVENT yet had children. I had one for yearssss.

Do your research on alternative sites about the Pill, not the MD sites. It really is a wrecking ball for alot of women, including myself. Wont touch the stuff since i was 18. Im 35.

[HeartIsAching]

We share a search engine account and I can view it from work, I only found out by pure coincidence a few weeks back that I could see this kind of stuff and as much as i annoy myself by looking I cant seem to stop it because its as if its some dirty little secret that he cant wait to get his hands on. Granted, he doesnt do it every day but when he does I picture him in my mind as watching me leave the house and making sure im definately on the way to work before he gets the websites up and running.

You expect me to believe that horse hockey?

[LOVE_CONFUSED]

Its true, but regardless of my snooping, thats what I see and how I feel.

[Emerald_Dreams]

My questions are:

1) How do you know he does it when you're not around? You snoopin'?

2) Why does his sexuality threaten you/why do you feel the need to control, regulate, and monopolize his sexuality?