Please be patient its a very long one but all the details are needed to fully understand the story.
For the longest time I was in an unhappy relationship. Then I met this guy and we just hit it off. We used to work together and we become friends nothing more, we didn't date or anything like that. We became good friends and naturally we started to open to each other. My relationship was already on the rocks it wasn't as if when I met him then my relationship started to deteriorate. I am not the kind of a person who would do that no matter how bad things were or how unhappy I was.
I was very unhappy in my relationship then one day after a year and half I told him I wanted to leave because things were really bad and that is when he opened up to be about how he really felt for me. I didn't know what to think because he was a really good friend but then when I think about it he always stared at me.
After a while I realized I had started to liked him too and he didn't hide the fact that he wanted to be with me. He then started to ask me to leave but It was complicated and I just didn't feel like I had a good reason to. We both knew that the only way we could be together was if I left the other relationship. But part of the reason why I didn't leave sooner was because I didn't want it to be about him. Then one time he explicitly asked me if I was going to leave him. I told him that I would. He moved to another state and as always he continued to ask me.
So after a year (we would talk from time to time and he would still inquire about me) I started planing to move closer to where he lived (and leave that relationship) so that we could finally be together but I wanted to make it a surprise. So since it was a surprise I just told him I wanted to visit and he seemed really excited so I jokingly asked if his status had changed and to my surprise he said it had but then he said I could still visit then I said I would not. At which point I said so you have found someone then he said no there are no guarantees in relationships.
So we didn't talk for a while as you can imagine then the next time we talked he said he wanted to come but I was still upset with him so I didn't react or anything then we didn't talk for a while yet again. The next time he was still inquiring and I had not left then either at which point he told me he was moving in with his girl friend. I tried to be a friend and wished him the best but its hard to be friends with someone you are in-love with.
So the unhappy relationship took for the worst and I now finally left. Then maybe 6 months after he had told me about the move in and after ending my relationship, I told him and he got really excited and told me that he would be coming to visit me as soon as I got my apartment ready (living with a friend right now). I was so excited and I said yes. He said as soon as I move into my own place I should tell him and he will buy a ticket to come and visit.
The problem is. I am in-love with him like he was all that time he waited for me but I don't want to be the girl on the side and I really don't see the point in him coming if he is still with the other girl. I know I am not entirely innocent in this situation and yes I know I waited way too long to leave to be with him but even if it has taken this long I am now more than ever strongly in love with him.
Since the time I told him that I had left, the GF has not come up in any of the topics. So should I bring up the girl friend? I guess I just don't. I am just confused why he wants to come if he has found someone else because I am not ready to be just friends. I mean I don't mind talking to him from time to time but seeing him in person is another thing. Am I too late, should I just forget about him and move on? Is is a hopeless cause? So hopelessly in love and don't know what to do. Help
PS cheating is out of the question.