Porn - Should it worry me?

[Gratedwasabi]

But even when I am around sometimes he's not in the mood then he'll look on these websites whilst I'm at work so its nothing to do with me being available for his urges.
This is what makes me so confused about him looking at it.

He's bored when you're at work. When I'm bored, I watch porn. Sad but true man fact.

[LOVE_CONFUSED]

I dont see any difference in our sex life when he does / doesnt view these websites.

I suppose its just a slight insecurity thing, thinking maybe he'd rather view those things that have fun with me.

[Petit Papillon]

Oh stopppp. It's just prono, for reals If he's ready whenever you're ready then don't bother Guys watch porn - some girls too,you know?...

[Yet another guy]

But even when I am around sometimes he's not in the mood then he'll look on these websites whilst I'm at work so its nothing to do with me being available for his urges.
This is what makes me so confused about him looking at it.

Maybe he is searching for good material so that he can use it when he is in the mood and you aren't around. He isn't wanking when he isn't in to mood, is he?

[LOVE_CONFUSED]

I'm not sure what he does when I'm not there. Sometimes we can go a few days at a time without either of us instigating anything at all due to our hectic work lifes. He works varied shifts so every other week he'll be alone in the mornings when I've gone to work.
I know he views these websites which I dont have an issue with, I just dont want them to start being a substitute for the real thing.

[VincenzoG91]

Maybe you're not having sex every day, but he's a man, so he's thinking about sex every day. If you want him to stop looking at porn, you're going to have to step it up to satisfy his needs.

[Yet another guy]

I'm not sure what he does when I'm not there. Sometimes we can go a few days at a time without either of us instigating anything at all due to our hectic work lifes. He works varied shifts so every other week he'll be alone in the mornings when I've gone to work.
I know he views these websites which I dont have an issue with, I just dont want them to start being a substitute for the real thing.

I'm a bit curious. If you are not there, how do you know he is not in the mood? Or how do you know he watches porn?

Anyway as others have said, when you are not around he doesn't have the choice of having fun with you. Your man hasn't chosen porn over sex. Not that they are exclusive in any way.

[doppelgaenger]

Maybe you're not having sex every day, but he's a man, so he's thinking about sex every day. If you want him to stop looking at porn, you're going to have to step it up to satisfy his needs.

I disagree. Sometimes a guy needs a break from worrying about another person's orgasm. Rubbing one out into the sheets when nobody is looking is a nice way to do that.

Furthermore I don't think she has anything to worry about. Once per week is hardly at all. If it was daily or every other day, then she has every right to be concerned about their sex life.

[red_sparrow]

me and my BF actually TALK about porn.

O_o

[thundersw]

You're ok, really.
Even after married he will still watch it when you're not around, on the internet, news magazines with some hot chicks, on the window while watches his hot neighbour on bikini... A lot of horny things a wife would feel insecure about.
Once a week he's not needy, just a wank to relax from stress, it's ok.
Everyday...then you've an issue to take care off.

[LOVE_CONFUSED]

Im after alittle more advice after thundersw's post -

Everyday...then you've an issue to take care off.

I've was on antibiotics last week and we didnt have sex due to my pill not being as active and neither of us like using condoms. We have had the odd joke about wanting to do stuff and having some fun but nothing happened of course. This week, we've had a few ups and downs, a major argument on monday evening and I had minor surgery yday which made me all groggy (again no sexual pleasure between us) i asked him yday when I satarted to feel alittle more myself if he fancied sex (just as a joking conversation) he said he didnt feel randy and sometimes he could feel that way for a few days, which he had.

However, dont moan about my snooping but everyday this week, within about 20 mins of me leaving the house in a morning - guess what, he logs onto porn websites.

Is this normal? I'm extremely confused.

[Yet another guy]

If he isn't getting any sex from you, I wouldn't worry about him doing it every day. If he keeps turning down sex, you may have something to worry about.

Yesterday he probably didn't feel like it because he didn't expect to get any and had wanked one off earlier. Or maybe because you had been groggy all day.

[Lipp]

Okay, look.

Porn+Masturbation = Habitual, minimal time spent for low-effort relief, minor enjoyment, 'mood' is not as important, zero intimacy, privacy is important.

Sex = Spontaneous, takes time and effort, more enjoyable, 'mood' is important, lots of intimacy.

Single, couple or married, guys still tend to watch porn from time to time, and as I clarify above, it's not necessarily because the sex life is insufficient, the two just fulfill needs that only sometimes overlap, and stressful working lives can be serious mood killers.

As others have stressed already, once a week is not a warning sign. What Thundersw meant was if he did it every single day for normal days, not the one-off case you just mentioned, and for which he for obvious reasons did it more regularly

The websites you mentioned are probably just free and popular sites, nothing special.

And yes, it is very normal.

[LOVE_CONFUSED]

Thanks for your advice.

On an overall level we have a great relationship, we've had our ups and downs where families are concerned but when its just the two of us things couldnt be better. I just worry that when he looks at this so often that its a warning sign to me, sometimes i jump to conclusions without taking the whole situation into account.

[Edboy]

nah, if your bf only watches it once a week then he has a very low urge for porn imo! Sounds like you two need to spice it up a little, no offence. Why dont you ask him to w*nk over you and vice versa. very sexy imo.