Things got complicated

[yemen]

I've met a girl in a club and become interested with her so I ask her for a date. Everything went well for the first date. I felt that she was also interested to me because she ask me to go out as well. Though she never started a conversation to ask me out. I have a gf by the time I got interested with her. A friend of my gf saw us while we are dating and what's more complicated is that she knows the girl that I am dating. She texted the girl that I am in a relationship while we were on a date. It felt like a rock has been thrown on my head when I knew it. I don't know what to do by that time. After what happened I texted the girl that I am sorry that I wasn't able to tell her about my problem with my gf and didn't get any reply. My gf also knew about it on the same day her friend saw us. I told my gf that I needed a space to think why did I do that. My gf wants me back but I refused as I thought that I did that because I fall out of love and just didn't tell to her straightly. I thought that getting back to her will just hurt her again. I send flowers to the girl for what I did and again didn't get any reply until I texted her. She told me that she's now happy with her life so I did stop communicating with her. After almost a week, it's Christmas day, I greeted her and she replied as well. We get in touch but not like before. After new year, I ask her out as I would like to give my xmas gift to her. She said yes but she will be with her friends. Well, it's fine for me as I just want to see her. It went well that she even gave me a gift in exchange for my gift. I text her always but I always get late replies. She's a very busy person. Just this week, I had a chance to dine with her. I enjoy the time when I am with her and I think she does too. She even drove my car and we enjoyed riding. I am having hard time asking her out as she always says she's busy.

We have an unfinalize date on the valentines with her friends. Right now I am confuse if I should continue or just stop because I am just wasting my time? Should I stop texting her everyday? Am I just paranoid?

[MerryH]

Yes, you're wasting your time. She is always "busy" because she doesn't want to date you. Why would she want that when she knows you already had a girlfriend when you first dated? You messed up bad.

Yes, stop texting her every day. Never text a woman every day when she takes forever to respond.

No, you're not just paranoid. She really doesn't want you. She's probably just responding because she's too nice to tell you to piss off.

[yemen]

You're right that I messed up for the first time. I explained to her everything. Sometimes she text me as if she is interested that's why I'm confuse. Like just right now she texted me that she will treat me on my favorite restaurant. She responds with questions as well on my text and I think that means she's interested to talk. I'm planning to continue till valentines. If there's no progress I will stop.

Please keep the comments coming.

[MerryH]

Oh, she's taking you out for a meal? That's a great opportunity to say, "Yeah, I'd love to go out. Can we make this an official date? You don't even have to pay. "




Do itttt.